Trying to do anal

Okay, so me and my fiance have been trying to do anal for the past year-ish. It's not that it hurts, I just cannot get over the weird feeling of when he fingers my ass, it feels like, well to be frank, poop moving in and out of my ass. I end up feeling like I may actually have to go to the bathroom or end up laughing at the sensation. Any ideas how I can get over this? Thanks
Aine

 

It'd be easier (for us to give advice, that is) if your issue were pain.

Are you aroused when you have anal or you're really just doing it kinda out of obligation? If that is the problem, you two could try making it noisier and more physical, with both caressing and groping each other and breathing hard, moaning, sreaming and cussing during the intercourse. It works for me. Very loud sex is what arouses me the most.

 

Get pissed. Most of the more stupid stuff happened to me when I was drunk.

 

And I just realized how gay that sounded. Not to me, but you know, the things I have tried

 

lol well we don't drink very often, but maybe we'll try that.
And no, not obligation. I want to try it at least once to see if I like it or not. And sometimes, he'll eat me out while he's fingering my ass to sort of "distract" from the sensation. The louder and more physical we get, the more rough our sex is, therefore, I'm not ready to do that with anal.

 

Maybe it just doesn't turn u on? Not that u don't like it. But just cuz something doesn't bother u doesn't mean it is sexually stimulating right?

I think in another thread I talked about my wife trying the shower head thing on her since some girls orgasm like that. She just laughed like crazy cuz she's super ticklish.

I'm not discouraging u from doin it, but maybe your not the kinda girl who's gonna get much from anal haha

 

you need to get super horny 1st...get really lubed up....lay on your side and have him tease all over between your legs. I love it when I felt his head pushing up against my ass, but I needed to be really horny. Wine helps too. WOW! I had the wine tonight, but all alone.

 

When he lobs a finger up there, get him to not actually move it for a min or two. This might help you better adjust to the sensation of just something being there without any in/out action for starters. Maybe you could also try a small butt plug to get used to that feeling. I know when I do anal I don't like anything much going on initially, but then get over it and go for it

 

Apart from psychological arousal, I never could understand what women could possibly get out of Anal Sex, as they lack the Prostate Gland that can make it physically enjoyable for men when they get penetrated.

It sounds to me more like you just simply are not psychologically aroused by Anal Sex, and only partaking in it for the sake of your partner.

 

I suppose I didn't clarify as well as I'd hope. It's not for HIS sake, it's for MINE I'm the one who decided to give almost everything a try once, just because I feel if you don't try it you don't give youself a chance to enjoy something you didn't know you liked. And I do find myself aroused a great deal when looking at anal porn (if I'm in the right mood). So looking but not actually doing it maybe my thing?

 

I had a college girlfriend who said she really like anal sex, the feeling of domination of me over her. But what she really liked as much was the fact that it freed my hands up to caress her clit and pussy lips while she still have experienced the feeling of penetration. My wife has never liked anal sex so don't feel like you are obligated to do or enjoy it.

 

There are more nerve endings in a butt of both males and females than only those contained in the male prostate. Not to mention the membrane of skin b/n the anal canal and vagina are so thin that it allows sensation from one to be felt in the corrosping errogenous zones of another.

Thats why some women can get totally off on it.

 

I know I am a guy-but that is my exact same problem. I've done a wee bit experimentation with a guy, but really want to be taken by my gf. We lube up and she takes it super slow, but once she gets past a certain point, I feel pressure; just as though I was going to poo. I can't get past that.
Hopefully Aine we can both get past that issue.

I think I started a thread on that paticular subject.
Reading many many threads on HF-it seemed liked many many women would cum by anal penetration alone. I was wonder how common that really was, and how I can make that happen for my gf, and I'm sure Aine wouldn't mind either.

 

Actually my fiancee gets G-spot stimulation out of it through the front wall of the anus, and the back wall of the vagina into the front wall of the vagina.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

I completely agree. I can have an orgasm just from anal...and squirt ..

As stated in a previous reply when he starts to enter you he should just stop and wait a few until you are accustomed to the full feeling. Start out by using a slim vibrator and work your way up to a larger size so that you can get used to it..

 

Just shut up and take it like a good girl.

This is what we call an 'uptown problem.' No lie.

 

Thank you everyone for your opinons and advice I'll consider them all next time ^_^

 

Maybe you are someone (like my wife), who doesn't like being fingered anally before anal sex.
My wife likes for me to massage her buns and gently massage her anus WITHOUT any insertion as foreplay.
After a few minutes I GENTLY push into her, stopping if she says to stop and take it easy.
After she has had a few orgasms using her vibrator and her anus is fairly dilated I can lube up a couple fingers and insert them with no problem.
Good Luck!

 

I read this with a Steve Irwin accent in my head and it was funny as fuck :rofl: :cheers2:


Yeah going to agree with imaginary here and say have a few drinks before hand, lower inhibitions an that

 

A-Men...me too!