so we've been dating for about 9 months. i love her more than i've ever loved anybody. but i got SERIOUS trust issues. like i don't like her talking to other guys, cause when she does i get all jealous and shit... and it pisses me off. i hate being like that, and i know she hates it just as much. i love her, but if i don't get this trust thing in check i think it'll be the end of us. she personally hasn't ever given me any reason to not trust her. but it's just hard for me to. i don't want to be over-jealous, over-protective to the point of being controlling. that's not my bag at ALL. but i don't know, man.... any help at all?
I had such problem too.And I dunno how it comes,just when i saw her picked up her cellphone and went to another room...i went antsy. Unfortunately,there really was a son of bitch who liked my gf and kept calling her and asking her out when we just started.I know she didnt like that son of bitch,but i don't understand why she can't give him an complete rejection.Even now i want to kill him.A month latter, that son of bitch disappeared,but the situation not changed,even worse.I can't bear her lie.Most of the time when she answered a phone,i have to ask who was it, girl or guy.Sick,isn't it? And latter i figured that out the matter is not on her,but on me.Once you understood this,you will find it's not that hard to let it go.When her cellphone rang and she picked it up ,went to another room,i just told to myself "it's okay,don't be nervous,might be one of her smelly gf,has some girl's issue,and need for her advice." And then everything's okay. Just some advice. You have been dating her for 9 months,cool, really a long time dating.Why you can't say she 's yours after such a long time dating?Easy man.She's yours,just give her some girl's space. BTW,Can you tell me some other words close to "son of bitch" in English?
haha. nice. yeah man, i guess you're right... see she doesn't have a cellphone, much less leave the room when someone calls, so my situation's a LI'L worse than that. i appreciate the help, fools_leave. i'll just try to tell myself that next time i get that way.
When you dont trust someone that doesnt give you any sign of distrust is usually because of your own insecurities and a consequence of past experiences. See what it's there and dont imagine the rest. Dont let your past relationships determine the one you are in at the moment, its true we learn from all of them, but learning and having a predisposition for things to go bad are two different things.
Hey careful that is what ended my relationship of 8 years. After it ended I finally saw how much I could trust her which made me feel like an ass. Now were in some kind of weird friend zone but its awkward and theres tension of trying to hold back from saying things and doing things we used to.
lol i didn't even catch that... yeah i know what you're saying... i'm thinking the problem is im holding on way too tightly, scared that im gonna lose her and even way more scared that she'll leave me to be with someone else i'm just giving up trying to be in control of my life and where it's headed, i'm gonna let my live unfold how it's going to and just enjoy every little thing in and about it, you know? CAN I GET AN AMEN!??!?!
im the same way with my boyfriend but my trust problem with him is his myspace. He's always talking to girls on there and not telling me sometimes and its so annoying because i never know whats going on. And the some of the girls he talks to are really really pretty like every guys fantasy and i know im not like that so i kindof get worried and jealous. I know he loves me alot and everything but he gets mad when i hang out with guys and i get mad when he hangs out with girls and ive told him to tell me many times when hes hanging out with girls but i dont think he will and even if he does andf he swears he didnt do anything its still hard for me to believe that just because im such a jealous person. I dont know anymore. I just hate when i dont talk to him for a day because i never know where he is and what hes doing and right now it seems like he doesnt even want to try and talk to me when we dont get to see eachother. But yeah i guess just start trusting her and i know its hard because you dont know what she says is the truth or not but if shes never done anything and theres no reason for you not to trust her then you have nothing to worry about.
whoahwhoah. i have that problem too. my boyfriend talks to lots of girls on myspace. some are his friends. that i don't really know but it makes me suspicious sometimes, just because you never know if he's had a past fling with them or whatnot. and its hard cuz at least half of his friends are girls...half of mine are boys...but i talk about them so he knows who they are but he never seems to talk about these girls other than one, who he says he doesnt even see as a girl. but until something happens. i have to believe that he;s not seeing anyone on the side
