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Are you the guy or the girl in the relationship?









Hmm. I dunno, I'll check...Yep! A vagina! I must be the girl!

 

I thought you already had a partner.

 

the guy or the girl? can't i just take it as i am and as you are?

 

I do, but the last 3 times I have dated girls, before she asked me out that would always be the first question I got. Seriously, I'm trying NOT to fall into stereoptypical gender roles. I like buying her stuff and paying for dates and doing random romantic things and doing certain things that would be considered from the "guy's role", but I am obviously female and therefore fall into the female role as well.

Can't they just avoid asking that? It has nothing to do with anything, and if they undertsood me, they would understand that it doesn't matter.

 

ff/mm/mf... i wish we could just throw out all over dependence on stereotypical gender roles and just be ourselves.

 

It seems like a weird question. You could just say neither.

 

ew that's kind of insulting. they could at least use the words dominant or submissive... because one often does take one of those roles in a relationship, but it doesn't matter what the gender combination is of people. i know a lot of couples in which the girl is the dominant one.

 

Love isn't about Roll Play!!! It's about "Will You LOVE me"? The Dating part is to see if you can be open enough to get to know each other before becoming a couple.

 

Agreed. Weird question.

 

not that weird... i've hd people ask me that and its just cos they're not open enough to have thought about traditional gender roles and how they don't have to apply. society's norms, you know?

 

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Femme; although I suppose I could be rather butch in bed.

 

Whats a butch and a femme?

 

butch = lesbian tomboy
femme = purely feminine lesbian

 

femme here. :sunglasse

 

what about adrogynous- somewhere in the middle. or would that be considered femme still?

 

not "he man" butch, but not femme either.

hey soulrebel, good to see ya again !!

 

Butch, mostly.

 

depends. generally butch. i hate preciousness. but then on occasion i love to be girlie. esp if barbra streisand's on the radio.

 

i can go both...generally i am pretty sporty but i am still a girl...i don't like to fuss over myself too much and i usually don't wear makeup unless i am out somewhere facy with my mom...which is very rare but it does happen. i like to be comfortable...so that's that.
oh...and i do wear boys clothes...sometimes...