too modest

I'm new here and have a serious problem. I have never ever been able to let a guy see me naked. NEVER. I have been married for 10 years and my own husband has never seen me naked either. This sounds unreal i know but I need help. I have always been this way since I was a little girl but I need to change this. Just cant seem to do it. Another problem I have is, I have never had an orgasm with someone. I can only achieve this on my own but not while i'm with someone. It only happens when i'm alone. I am one messed up woman. I thought i could continue to live my life like this but i'm not so sure anymore.

 

Emma,
The issue is not your decision to "never be seen nude". That is just a symptom.
Symptom of what? It could be a lot of things.
I had this issue for a few years and it gradually went away. But your reasons for "never nude" may be quite different from mine.
You recognize that "never nude" is not practical and you want to change, so you must take action.
But since you have let this go on so long, I think you should get help, rather than trying to fix it alone.
Unless there is some organic problem, you should expect to have experienced orgasm with your husband at some time in the past ten years of your marriage. This may or may not be related to your "never nude" dilemma. (I think there may be a connection)

You are in the nudist section of the forum and I am a nudist, but not everyone finds it practical to participate socially. However, there is also a nudist philosophy. It entails a lot of things, including respect for the human body, including one's own body. That I hope you can aspire to.
You are among friends here and we can offer you encouragement and enlightening personal stories, but you owe it to yourself to find someone trained professionally to help guide you to achieve your goals.

 

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I'm not sure this is a modesty issue.

 

Glen,
People come on forums all the time posting salacious stories for their own amusement. This might be one of those cases, but I don't regret posting what I did "just in case" she's fighting a bizarre obsession. In any case, this forum, nice as it is, is not where people with that problem should turn for help. (encouragement certainly).

For those silent lurkers who have less clinically advanced cases of "never nude", they will benefit when we share stories of how we gained more confidence about our bodies and therefore a happier life.

 

I'm sorry Glen if I said something wrong. I'm not sure what that could be but sorry anyway if you think I wasnt being serious. I will go talk to someone i guess. I was basically just lookjng to see if someone else had the same problem in the past that maybe could help me. I went to Anthony Robbins seminars to try to find an underlying issue but no luck. Sorry again to have given anyone the wrong idea.

 

Yo could practice here by showing some skin ;p

 

Married 10 years... never been seen naked... :banghead:

 

Why am I pissing people off??? Please explain.

 

That's pretty crazy (hence the skeptical comments i think). I mean, i feel for u because u must be seriously insecure/miserable. Like GardenGuy, i would suggest that u seek a therapist's help. There has to be some trauma behind all that.

 

I agree it sounds crazy. It is crazy. I live it everyday. I will go talk to someone to try and figure out what the heck is wrong with me. Thanks.

 

Emma, don't take the cynicism personally. We sometimes get people who visit just to put their fantasies into a discussion forum for their own amusement.

I am not mocking you nor your problem. I had a small case of it once. Yes, please get help and come back here for encouragement when you feel ready.

I can't tell you how liberating it is to be nude among friends and acquaintances and know that I am not being judged. In fact, we respect one another as comrades, each taking the path less taken. It is worth the price.
And being nude in nature is totally awesome. I can tell you about times when I went running naked on the sand down into the surf, hot summer days slipping through the woods along secret pathways, naked, all my senses alive like a creature of the wild, because I am.

And when I met the "right one", the relationship reached a point where she and I eagerly shed our clothes so our bodies could come together, skin touching skin, nothing in the way. Even people who are not nudist need moments of total nudity to share total love.

I hope that this imagery does not offend you, but inspires you to do what is needed to enjoy your body, enjoy your life the way we were designed.
It will be worth whatever you need to do to make this happen, to regain your freedom.

Blessings!

 

@Emma, After Re Reading My Post In The Light Of A New Day,

I Decided It Was In Bad Taste, So I Removed It A Few Minutes Ago....

Sorry If I Offended You In Any Way, I Just Over Reacted To The

Subject Of Your Thread And I Apologise....



Cheers Glen.

 

hello emma!


I agree that seeing a therapist is probably a good idea. Going to a seminar doesn't really sound like a good way to deal with this.

So if you want your husband to see you naked but you are just too fearful, you might be able to take small steps.

maybe you could show him a picture of you naked. maybe you could talk about being naked.

do you know why you are so afraid?

 

Thank you Glen. And no as to the last post. I dont know why I'm so afraid. I have been this way even as a small child. I remember taking baths with my panties on and my mom asking me why. I had no answer then either. I'm very tiny, weighing only 104, but for some reason, maybe I think I'm not pretty enough or he will think my body is ugly. I had breast augmentation a few years ago thinking that would help but it didnt. I still couldn' t
Show him. He leaves me alone about this but I would like to change. I have also tried the photo thing but couldnt go through with it. Sad day.

 

How did u get through the process of a boob job without ever showing yourself naked to anyone?

 

Crayola, I of course must get naked for doctor appts. But it is humiliating to me. I got the breast augmentation to try and help the issue in some way

 

It's crazy that a doctor let u have plastic surgery, considering your nakedness issue. I dunno, just seems like a major ethical mistake to me...

 

therapist can probably help.


you might be able to try gradually wearing less and less clothes, till you feel ok with being in a bikini. then wear an even smaller bikini

 

Maybe a female hypnotist can help. I say female because you would probably feel more comfortable with one. Probably help you to get to the underlying cause. 104 lbs with breast augmentation? Man,how many women would like to be able to be in that position? You're on the way to getting over this just by asking. Good luck.

 

Thanks for all the advice. I hope to conquer this problem and enjoy life like others and hopefully have a fulfilling sex life.