ok so when i masterbate (male) i struggle to last over a minute, less if i speed it up. wondering what techniques i can use to over come this cause this is obviously way to quick. Never been in sexual activity its just always been this way, and just wondering how to over come this and have control over when i come so i can enjoy it more and especially because if i cant last long by myself, cant start to imagine how long with a partner. any tips or advice?
Wow, sorry cant help but laugh, never heard anyone worry about Premature ejaculation when the partner is their own hand. But seriously, Kegel and all that, maybe look into some Tantric stuff also for control, and really, keep whacking off like crazy PS: Would kind of help if you said how old you are, if your like 15 its not really anything out of the ordinary
i start and stop, i do it for a while then stop for a while, i can go for a few hours this way, like i'm doing it right now, but when i feel too excited i stop then start again, that makes it better anyway of course if your real young that would explain it, i'm 58 i can go almost all day
well, if your new to it, just gota get used to it an itll get longer over time as you get used to it, if your not, then like toeringuy said, start and stop as needed, itll prob help you get used to it too.
It looks like you've answered the question in your own post. It's all down to speed. I think when we first start to masturbate we all go at it as fast as we can in order to reach that Holy Grail of the orgasm as soon as possible, and many of us continue to use the original technique thoughout their lives. In my own experience I was much the same until the time when I lost my virginity. Once I had penetrated her I remember that one of the first thoughts running through my head was to think, quite logically, really, that masturbation, was only a simulation of real sex and, therefore, in order to get the best out of this situation the only way to reach an orgasm would be to hammer away at it at the same rate that I would if I were masturbating. Needless to say it was only a matter of seconds before she was yelling at me to "Take it easy". My logical train of thought was as wrong as it could possibly be. I immediately slowed right down & adjusted my thrust rate to her bodily responses. I wouldn't have thought that it was possible to reach an orgasm by taking it that slow, but I most certainly did reach it, and it took me a lot longer than it would through plain masturbation - or if I had maintained the original thrust rate. In the days immediately following that encounter (and even to this day, to a certain extent) I would relive every stage in my mind, right down to remembering that feeling of delight of first penetration when I knew that I had finally lost my virginity. Each stroke would match with the pattern I had followed - fast for the first few seconds, and then I would slow things right down as much as I could, for as long as I could, until the pangs of impending orgasm were upon me when, just as in the real situation I couldn't help but start to speed things up, making each stroke harder & faster until I hit the final peak. I always found it surprising that the sensation of masturbation & sex could be so different, when the physical actions were essentially the same, and after having experienced sex my masturbation technique was improved tenfold, as I then had something I could compare things to. Knowing what it should feel like made a major difference. However, the main thing that gives the satisfaction, whether you be masturbating or having actual sex, is your state of mind. Sexual pleasure is only about 20% physical stimulation - the remaining 80% is in the mind. Many's the time I've had an unwanted erection & I've had to masturbate for no reason other than to get rid of it. Obviously in such instances there is a certain degree of pleasure attained, but nothing special. On the other hand, there are the time when I can have the yearning for a really satisfying masturbation session, whn I may even start off totally flaccid. Under such circumstances I will find a piece of porn that particularly appeals to me, lube up my FleshLight, & follow, as much as possible, the actions & rate of the guy in the video, imagining myself to be in his place. Another technique I occasionally use to force a session to last out is to write erotica stories, made up of my personal recollections, fantasies, and combinations of the two. Of course, when you are writing, you are physically limited to how much you can masturbate at the same time, and the sexual strain that this builds up can make the fantasies that I'm writing far more intense - and so the circle goes on. Consequentially, each of my stories take about 10 - 15 mins to read, and are available for anyone to read for free at Erotic To The End. It's a personal site & totally free, so hardly spamming. Perhaps you might like to try following one of the stories through next time you masturbate, putting yourself in the place of one of the characters of the story & see if that can make you last longer.
pineman, id say speed depends on person/mood, and that its more about practice than speed, though its best to stop for a bit to let it last even when your goin fast, new or expeirenced. and the last bit, thats always fun, let your sexual creativity flow and if you want, it can be even funner if you can find a freind to help you with your story, using IMing and take turns writing more to your story, or taking roles as the people in your story and writing out what you do to eachother, though i find that about 60%-70% i like to write my own storys by my self, masterbaiting or not, it is very enjoyable.
What a load of bullshit! So many rules. OY! Kid, keep wanking and enjoying. If you wanna last longer, wait a few minutes and start again. I remember it used to take me 2/3 times when I was 13 - 16. Then I discovered girls and was so busy lickin and sucking and touchin an such (called 4play) that she'd come, I stick it in an follow seconds later - what the hell we were both happy as little pigs. Don't worry 'bout things happening later, just enjoy what you can for the while. It'll all work out, believe me. Them rules and procedures listed above will drive you up a wall tryin to remember 'em. Go wank and forget them guys.
by doing stop, start method i can now last 10+ mins b4 i even feel the urge to let go, so much improvement and i will continue this, still wondering how will this translate into when im with a partner? will i be able to last this long or is it a whole different ball game
Bruce, I tried to tell you. It's up to you how much time you wanna spend in 4play vs. ruttin' in the hole. I can last all day just eatin' her out and every time she starts screaming, I dive in and relieve myself.......but there are more proper and formal ways for the 'good and polite' people I guess.....
