To all my skinny brothers and sisters..

Doesn't it piss you off when people ask if you have an eating disorder, just because you're average weight, or just below?

If I asked a fat person if they ever stopped eating, I would never hear the end of it.. But it's totaly acceptable for people to ask my parents if they're feeding me, and for them to tell me I need to start eating more.

 

I think you are grossly underestimating how much fat people get mocked.

 

I'm not saying they don't. But apparently being a healthy weight is a crime, and means I thow up all my food.

Edit: I feel like I'm coming off as a bitchy idiot, so I'll give the backstory. My friend, (who is most defenatly fine, and like, 5 pounds below the average weight just got sent to treatment by her parents. And today they were talking to my parents about how much I eat, and I get this shit all the time. I'm sure fat people have issues, and they're probably bigger (no pun intended) but this really pissed me off.

 

I never had a weight issue, I have always maintained a body weight that was healthy, until I had Chemo and Radiation. I lost 30 pounds and have only managed to gain back about 10 in the last 3 years. I need to gain back at least another 10. Every time I get on the scale at the oncologists, I dread it. When I finally break 100 pounds again, I am going to throw a party.

So I hear what you are saying. The difference is that when people make a comment to me who do not know why I am now so thin, it is concern and they try to be helpful.

My son has bilateral Legg-Calve-Perthes and has gained over 40 pounds and he needs to lose weight. Now that he can be more active, he is working on that as the surgery he had has helped him.

The comments made to him are meant to be hurtful. They are not only made by kids but by adults.

There is far more societal pressure to be thin and acceptance of those who are overweight is just not there. They are blamed for the weight and perceived to be lazy and not health conscious.

That is life, we try to have those around us conform to what we think is the image that should be.

I am sorry that there are those who think that your weight is who you are.

 

I hope you continiue to recover.. *good vibes*

and yeah, I guess it is much better in that the comments are meant to be helpful, but I've been going to college, not high school for the past two years, and don't hang out with cruel people.. So I'm not around many hateful comments against overweight people and forgot how some people can be.. It stills iritates me that I'm labeled with a disorder that I don't have.. But I could have it much worse off in a lot of different ways.

 

It is hurtful in either situation. I am sorry that people feel they have the right to make those comments to you.

Thank you for the good vibes.

 

you probably just don't hang around fat people op :rofl: totally kidding...

 

I know you’re only kidding but to be honest it’s impossible to avoid them - they’re everywhere! :hide:

You go to a movie theatre and there are three super-heavy weights sitting in front of you who spend half the movie woofing down hotdogs, popcorn, and junior mints

They wash it down with a large diet coke thinking "see, and everyone says I can’t stick to a diet" "I just saved 500 calories by drinking diet coke, and because I just lost 500 calories, we can all stop off at DQ on the way home for a blizzard ”

Hotwater

 

^ see op within the span of a page your thread has been hijacked to make fun of fat people, quit yo bitchin.

 

You have nothing to do with peoples own perceptions and your thread was valid and something that a lot of people also face.

That anyone points a finger at someone who has a weight problem, without a hand to help them following that, is a statement of who they are.

Obesity is a problem in today's society but negative is not a counter to the problems. No one who is overweight is not aware of it and yet far too many people take great delight in reminding them.

I still feel that either side of this coin is a quagmire of emotion. There are no answers.

Be as healthy as you can working with where you are.

 

if everyone was average weight,average height,average intelligence.....


the world would be such a shitty boring place

 

Not to mention unprofitable for the huckster diet pharmaceutical and exercise equipment industry that makes a killing (almost literally) off many peoples negative self image.

 

No one is bitching just differentiating between the half-tons and have-nots



Hotwater

 

Negative comments about appearance will always be hurtful, whether it's weight, hight, skin, spots whatever!

I don't get why people feel the need to point out to people that they are under/ over weight. Just get on with your own lives and stop taking so much interest into what others do and trying to put them down.

 

Good example of what I mean.

 

They are probably thinking they are distracting attention they believe is on their own shortcomings and the easiest way in their little universe is to illuminate someone else's. It stems from the egotistical notion that people in general are actually paying attention to them constantly.

 

Sometimes, yeah I agree it is. But, it's no excuse, especially when comments like that aren't warranted. So what if someone is skinny or overweight? Get over yourself. Nobody is perfect.

 

i think the op has a right to "bitch" ...........


I hate when people ask me questions about my weight, i used to be a lil skinnier and everyone would be like "do you eat?... I'd love to take you home and feed you." ..... How about I go up to a fat person nd say " How much do you EAT.. I'd love to take you home and starve you" .. its not right.. dont comment on anyones appearance that may be offensive. Just cause some people are naturally skinny does not mean they have an eating disorder

exactly

 

I was really underweight most of my life. Only now in my mid twenties have I entered into the low range of whats considered healthy for my weight. People used to ask me if I ever ate or if I had an eating disorder all the time. I got called Skeletaur all throughout high school, and these insults definitely hurt me and other skinny people just as much as insults hurt an overweight person.

I lead a really active lifestyle, and I eat healthy, and I'm really proud of my body now because it is evidence of the kind of lifestyle I lead. But, because I am still on the skinny side, people still make snide remarks. They don't bother me anymore because I'm not underweight and I know I don't look bad anymore (although i probably did in high school..i was super bony). However, here is something that really bothers me, at the risk of being completely politically incorrect......

It is not cool to be grossly overweight. I hate how our society has turned this "big and beautiful" thing into something that people should aspire to. I am healthy, and overweight people act like there is something wrong with me. Being overweight is NOT healthy. I don't judge another by their weight. I dont think anyone can truly know how healthy another person is just based on looking at them. Fat and muscles settle on different bodies differently. A person can eat just as healthy and be just as active as I am yet weigh a good 30 pounds more than me. That is fine. What I dont think is fine is the way many people in our society have put such a spin on being overweight that its now considered beautiful to be morbidly obese.

We as a society need to stop focusing on the outward appearance of a person. There is also a such thing as what I call "skinny-fat," and that is precisely what I labeled myself in high school. I was so skinny I feared working out because I didn't want to lose any weight, and I constantly stuffed my face with junk food in order to gain weight. I was just as out of shape as someone that is 50 pounds overweight. We need to learn to focus more on health. A person who is healthy and active will look exactly as they are meant to look, and that is what makes a person beautiful.

Both fat and skinny women get a lot of shit in the media. Skinny women are labeled unhealthy, anorexic. Fat women, which in the celeb world means 5 pounds overweight, are completely picked apart for their celulite, their arm fat, etc. Its ridiculous. How is anyone ever supposed to feel beautiful in a society that ostracizes both ends of the spectrum?

I dont really like that lean, hard muscled look that is so popular in celebrity culture either. Its so healthy it becomes unhealthy, like an obsession. Women, both small and big, are supposed to have some body fat. It protects our unborn children, it makes us feel more sexual, it keeps our reproductive system functioning. Moderate exercise and a balanced diet (oh, and dont even get me started on dieting) is the way to achieve your body's ideal weight, and to hell with what society has to say about it.

I didn't mean to go off on a rant, but because I was made fun of so much when i was younger, body issues are something i get a little too passionate about.