So I met a girl and I think she likes me, and I like her too. I have little expierience with women except as friends so this is pretty new to me. We go to the same college and ride the same bus from the same bus stop and have class in the same area so we have about 40-50 minutes to talk every tuesday and wednesday. We seem to have a lot in common, and she thought it was amazing that I'm going to school to be a firefighter. It kind of seems like she is the slightly nervous one not me, even though based on physical looks I'd say she's slightly out of my league. I'm going to ask her if she wants to get a cup of coffee next week after I get to know her a little bit more which is pretty harmless so she'll most likely say yes. Does anyone have any tips on how to woo the ladies? Things to talk about (I'm pretty shy until I really get to know someone, but then I'm very talkative.)
Has she given you indicators of interest? Laughed at your jokes, flip her hair, reinitiate the conversation when you stop talking? If she has, then you're in stage 3 of seduction, Male to Female Interest. Qualify her, tell her you like her but, tell her why. It's will be waaay better if you tell her you're attracted to her by somrething other than her beauty. You should be going light hearted kino with her(touching her, on the shoulder, shaking her hand, giving her a hug) so that way, when the kiss comes, it's not akward.
I don't think I'm that far, it would probably be weird if I just told her I liked her, I think I'll just ask her if she wants to get a cup of coffee or some lunch and take it from there. It kind of seems like she is interested though, when we first met she was the one that came up to me and said hi when I was sitting at the bus stop, it turns out I went to high school with her brother. Then we got to school and she asked me if she could walk with me. We just talked about what classes we had and I told her I was taking a fire science because I wanted to be a firefighter and she was very impressed by that. We just talked on the way to class and in the elevator and then went to class and she said she'll see me Wednesday in a somewhat flirtatious tone. Reading over my post again I think I gave the wrong impression, I just met her today and we talked quite a bit but we will be seeing each other 2 days a week for about 40-50 minutes no matter what. So at the very least I have a friend, we have a lot in common and never really stopped talking until we went to class, but she seemed a little bit nervous while we were talking and I acted pretty confident. I said something about a really bad teacher I have that she had heard about. I said I didn't even know what the class is about but I'm getting a B in it and she laughed at that. She told me she was going to be a history major. She opened up to me a little, she said she was in special ed and I think she has ADD or some sort of learning disability like my sister does, it seemed like she was testing me with it to see if I was a jerk the way she dropped it into the conversation. I might just be reading into this to much, she could just want a friend. I got the feeling that she was in the same situation as me. With a lot of her friends going away to college and without too many people to talk with. This is community college by the way, I think she lives with her parents like I do and we live in the same town but I don't know how far away she lives.
There are no professional ladies men. It is always an amature game. Just be you. She'll either appreciate it or she won't. It really is that simple.
talk about the things you like. like music, and what you plan to do with your firefighting and why you decided to be one. talk about the things you like to do when your not studying and SMILE!
unfortunately the most interesting thing that you're going to get from an internet forum thread is the fact that you had to create an internet thread to find something interesting to talk about.
Actually I don't think finding things to talk about will be an issue. We never stopped talking today and I'm usually not very talkative at all until I really know someone well. I think either me or her will usually have something to say. I guess that's not why I made this thread, I just wanted some generic feedback about relationships in general, if you people think it sounds like she is interested in me, and how I should approach this situation. I think if it's meant to happen then it will happen. It seems like that's how most relationships start, they aren't forced, they just slowly build.
Write down ten things that she might be interested in talkng about and pick the one that is most appropriate for the situation. Talk about what she is interested in. Have a newspaper with you and talk about what an asshole George Bush is or something like that (he proves it every day in the newspapers).
Today went very well. The bus was late and it was probably around 20 degrees out. She slid next to me to warm up and I put my arm around her waist without even thinking about it and she didn't say anything, she just leaned in closer and rested her head on my shoulder. There's no school Monday but on Wednesday I'm going to ask her out to lunch. Man this is the best I've felt in a long time. Thanks a lot for the advice too Hyphy. I learned a lot about her today too, she says wants to be a history teacher.
A few things I'd say are worth considering but not dwelling over. One is that you need to be abloe to hold a normal level of conversation about something that totally interests you regardless of how the other person actually feels about the subject matter. It is when you are engaged in that kind of open sharing that a person can get a first hand gauge of your personal level of passion. Try to be smart about it though. If your REAL passion is raising dogs for fighting, maybe you should tone it down to just the raising dogs part (the oinkers will catch you soon enough and you'll need a pen pal in prison). The other side of the coin is getting to know what HER personal passion is. Have her tell you about her favorite thing, whatever it is. Listen to the words, but pay closer attention to the feelings being expressed. Once you have done this you should both be a great deal more familiar and substantially more relaxed and natural. Another trap to avoid is speculating too far down the road about where a relationship might be heading. If you're thinking it, you'll be projecting it in all kinds of ways, some very obvious. Let time do its thing, but be sure to get plenty of time. Fill the gaps with other communications (I used to send cards to my wife while we were dating, I worked in the store right next to hers but I mailed them anyway). But everyone here who said be yourself is totally right. People tend to be on their "best behavior" on dates which can translate into an akward or unnatural presentation which can send all kinds of unpredictible messages. Sounds to me like you're already in the park though. CF
