Husband wants to try anal, but I'm nervous. I'm afraid it will hurt and that poop will be everywhere.
The first time can be nerve wrecking. My partner and I kept chickening out. What we learnt from sexcourses.tv helped us get it right.
Of course your scared, apprehensive, and unsure. It's something new to experience. But before doing it with a partner do it to yourself. With a toy preferably. Use a lot of lubrication. Before you start use the bathroom as in go #2. Then you might use an enema to clean yourself out thoroughly. Start with lube on your finger to stretch the anus. Slowly insert the toy, again with lots of lube. Work up to the larger size. Never go from the anus to the vagina. UTI's can come from doing so. Once you have "trained" yourself with a toy get your partner involved. It is best to be fully relaxed and the best way to do this is to have an orgasm or two before moving to the back door. Have him stretch your opening with his fingers and lots of lube. Then when you are ready try for insertion. He might want to use a condom at first but I suggest you be on top. That way you can control it penetration better. But you have to use a lot of lube. Put the head of his penis in and hold it there. Do not let him thrust in all at once. Then pull out and add more lube to reinsert. Slowly you will fill your rectal cavity with his cock by repeating this process going a little deeper each time. Once you get the hang of it you can be the bottom and have fun. It takes practice and lots of lube. Also as I said before if you can have an orgasm before it will relax you for a better experience.
Go slow. Don’t attempt all the way on the first try unless you’re experienced with anal toys (plugs, dildos, etc.). Use LOADS AND LOADS OF LUBE. Unless you’re ready for it, you won’t like it. You want to like it, so be ready for it!
Everyone is give you good advice but what they are not tell you is that your first experience may not be that pleasurable, you most tell your husband to go very slow and not to just try to cramp it in there, and also tell to only put a little bit of his penis in at first and work up from there, if you feel pain tell him to stop, he does not have pull out, just wait before he begins any more movement and still it may not be for you, but give it a try more than once before you decide weather you like or love or hate it, good luck and I hope you love it
You should definitely explore it on your own first, and then with your husband with fingers and toys before trying actual anal sex. Check out the Anal Only Lifestyle Guide, which has a series of articles on how to get started with anal for the first time and enjoy it, as well as anal hygiene tips.
Yes, I'd be interested in knowing how it went for the OP. My wife and I finally did it twice a couple months ago. Before the first successful attempt, though, we had several failed ones, because she kept flinching and tightening. The first time we succeeded in penetration, it was doggy style, with me remaining motionless while she slowly "backed into" me as she felt ready. It felt amazing as her anus gradually enveloped my penis. Unfortunately, we didn't finish in that position, as after a few minutes of that, she said that was enough for now. But I think she did a wonderful try, and I look forward to trying it again soon. I've been determined to take something into my anal area, too, while she watches, just to help put her at ease. We've tried a few things in that regard, and I have to admit that keeping the anal muscles relaxed is a challenge. I still don't know how experienced people do it! I plan to keep on trying. As we've experimented, we've never had a problem of poop getting on anything. Good luck, and keep us posted.
Well I hope you enjoy it, the shopping for new toys is always fun and don't buy cheap stuff and get a good water based lube, start small and work your way up to large, I just got my wife a set of stainless steel butt plugs, she still can't get the largest one in but it's bigger around than I am, if you to an Adam and Eve's, they can help you make the right decision on what to buy, good luck on your new sexual adventure
The other day, my wife and I took a small, long plastic doohickey, put a sock over it, and then a condom over that. We applied an abundance of petroleum jelly to the condom and on my anus. Then I started easing it in, back and forth, while my wife watched and sometimes helped. It felt really interesting and neat, although I didn't get euphoric or anything. You'll be relieved to know that when I pulled the thing out, not a speck of "refuse" was to be found on it. Good luck in trying things. Tell us all the details that you're comfortable with when you've done it.
That awesome, I'm glad you enjoy it, now keep move forward for the most mind blowing sex you ever had, good luck to you
Yikes. Can I assume this long process is only required the first time? I mean, what if we only have an hour? All joking aside, this doesn't sound easy.
