I'm in a dilemma and I wanna hear what folks have to say. I've been with my gf for 3 years (living together for 2). When we started I had been in a two-year slump, and it felt stupid to pass up on someone I had growing feelings for, even though I'm not exactly fond of commitment. My phobia had me in a corner, I said to myself. And every step of the way, from seeing her everyday, to taking care of the cats when she was away, to the cell-phone plan, to finally moving in, I was torn between pursueing the relationship further and keeping my freedom. Lately I've been feeling like a caged lion and resentful of her ownership of my sexuality. Our sex-life has faded and I've been getting a fair amount of female attention. Quitting immediately is not an option for a variety of personal reasons. What's a free lover at heart to do? Has anyone here been in a similar situation?