Last night my GF wwent to a big (200+ people) end of school party with all of her year. She got VERY drunk, so drunk infact she can't remember any of it except for arriving there, then finding her self in a field in the middle of wales surrounded by sheep at 4:30 in the morning, she then wondered in some guessed-at direction untill the police picked her up who were looking for her (because she phoned home, and they phoned the police). Any way, here is why im posting this: her friend said she snogged a few lads, and i think a few girls (im not too bothered if she snoggs the odd girl at a party when im there ) but apparently she walked off with this lad who's reputation is abit of a user. She doesnt know what they possibly may have done, but it probably involved sexual favours (not leading to full intercourse). She remembers none of it and would never do such a thing sober. she couldnt appologize enough, but i forgave her and said that i love her unconditionaly and that alchohol makes fools of us all. she promised from now on to seriously cut down the amount she drinks. Just wondered, what every one elses opinions are? what would you have done if you were in my shoes?
alcohol defifntly does take a different affect...ecspecially on things liek that...just talk to her about it and have her try her hardest to remeber..i knwo i have been really wickedly drunk one time and diddnt remeber anything..not a good feeling!!!
hehe i got so drunk a few weeks back and forgot the whole night, except for being slapped by a skin head and then being home drinking water
There's a difference between through thick and thin, and plain being dragged down by another's foolishness, and being unhealthily co-dependant and eventually being foolish yourself. It has nothing to do with love. I have dabbled with an alcoholic and drug user before. The only things worth it were the lessons I had to learn myself.
could you expand on your point, or maybe explain your past experiences to me please hannah? so that i don't get any unbiased opinions/suggestions etc.
Society makes it "cool" to get totally drunk and have a really "good night out". I think some people just need a bad experience with it to put them off a bit and then they will know where to stop next time - this was the case for me. It could happen to anyone, im sure shes thrilled that your really understanding about it. The thing that concerns me is that she woke up in a field. Im not saying anything happened, maybe she tried to walk home and ended up there. You could always confront the guy who she went off with if you really want to know, she is your girlfriend after all. My ex used to go a bit overboard with alcohol sometimes, and it did bother me a bit. While i had been there and learned from it, she seemed to be happy to get too drunk sometimes. On 2 occasions i had to clean up after she threw up in bed / all down the wall. And she never apolagised or thanked me, she just said "arent i allowed to have a good time?" ..Some girls eh?
Well the guy denied any thing happening, he just said she wondered off :H Probably did, being all disorientated and stuff. i know what you mean about society making it cool, im actually training my self to have a good time from the atmoshphere and the people etc, and not whats inside me. There was a study conducted where they gave a bunch of drinkers a load of fake beer which didnt get them drunk and another load they gave real beer. Both bunche's reported back to have had about the same amount of fun in the same night out. i asked her how she got to the field, and she has no idea lol
Thanks for the answer Natedog, i think i needed some reasurance, not that i would have changed my mind either way :H
yeah, it's a tough situation. i'd just take a good look at your realationship, and insure that you two truly in love, and that if she did do anything, she was so inegreated she couldn't even "think". i mean, has she done anything like this before? it's great that your so understanding, that is true love. but, make sure she isn't/doesn't take advantage of your love.
actually yeah it has happened before, she snogged a girl in front of me before without realising, but then i cant talk... i snogged a boy in front of her haha >.< uhmm she is a pretty bad drunk to be honest, but she's promised never to do it again. She has an alchoholic mother, so coupled with that and the way she drinks she is making a big effort to curb her drinking, and she is doing very well.
What is done is done, and she cant remember. You should NOT forgive her on the basis she was drunk, becuase that sends the message that its okay to do whatever so long as shes smashed enough. If she cares about how you feel then she wouldnt get so goddamn written off. And imho... pashing ANYONE is cheatting, be it guy or girl
