This just doesn't make sense. Does it?

Ok, now, these messages are being sent back and forth between a girl I had dated in the past, and just hooked up with her again on Sunday. Bear in mind, this woman has been calling me nightly and telling me how she wants to hook up again.

Tell me if this makes any sense at all- These are text messages sent back and forth.

The start of the messages back and forth were just random questions, I started to feel like I wanted to go grab a beer. Well, you call can read what happens from there.

This is our texts to ach other'(you being 'her' in this case, I sent this as an e-mail to her to see what the hell she was thinking) -

Me- Are you on my space?

you - no, why

me- just curious, everyone is on it

you- I am not like everyone lol, sorry not my thing

me- lol I got sucked in

me- I am going to go drink some beer tonight

you- where, with someone from myspace?

me- not tonight, I don't date anyone on myspace

me- not sure yet, but I am feeling rowdy

You- is it a date? I hope your dating life is going well

me- not tonight

me- wanna margarita?, I am buying

you- maybe, where?

me- saltys

you-thats kind of out of your way

me- I am going to scottsdale anyways

you- just curious what are your intentions?(that was kind of an odd question btw)

me- not sure as of yet but I am meeting up with some friends up north at a biker bar later, but I am ready to go now


me- so are you down?

You. No but thanks for the invite

me- Ok, and yes dating life is going great (I was responding to the question above about 3 texts)

me- btw, it was great to see you again sunday, you took me by surprize, have a good weekend if I don't get a chance to talk to you before.

you- I am thinking this hanging out thing is not such a great idea, I am glad your life is going great but I am feeling uncomfortable with the way you are communi- (ends there)

me- what? Why?

you- did you get all of that, it cut off

me- not sure but I think you have misinterpeted my intentions

me- I consider you a friend, I know we may have went overboard the other and i think you are great but I just want to be friends

me- I was just bored and wanted to get a drink, thats it

you- I don't want to be friends, I wish you the best but please to not call or text.



So, over a few text messages, she goes from 'lets hang out again as soon as possible' to 'don't call or text me anymore'??

Secondly, why not call someone if the wires are getting crossed. This chick is a freakin nut job.

Sheesh.

 

she never really seemed to want to hang out. I didn't see it.

Seems like she was just being courteous...

 

This is a game player and she feels power from her manipulation. Lose her she will take away the beauty that is around you. Southernhermit and the little cool dog Catfish

 

she seems like she's toying with you

I think it'd be better to just let it go in this case

 

She was wanting you to say that you are not dating anyone and that you don't just mess around with whoever. You messed it up by saying yea, my dating life is going great.

 

i think that she don't want to have anything with you, not even a friendly-beer-night

 

u "hooked up with her again" she probably thought u two were getting bak together but u just said u only wnated to be freinds. did she know that before u two hooked up? she probably feels deceived

 

I seriously doubt that, she is dating other people as well.

This is a case of jekyl and mr. hyde here, why would she all of the sudden be uncomfortable with the way I was talking to her, as if she was 'worried' that I would want to go back to her place and fool around, which is exactly what she wanted to do on sunday.

The thing that doesn't make sense, is not only did she call me on sunday to hang out, also called me monday night, made plans for last night, then called again tuesday night telling me how excited she was to hang out again, then wendsday she did not call, I had to call her. She didn't seem like she was in the mood to hang out, which was fine, i was going out anyways, and offered to have a drink with her at someplace that was close to her house also on the way for me. Somehow that gets twisted into some alterior motive?

I just don't understand the whole hot hot hot then all of the sudden cold thing. I didn't hear from this girl for about a month, the reason we quit talking was much for the same reason, the whole game playing, just trying to understand the logic behind it, of course there is no logic, lol. I quit talking to her one night she came out to meed me for a drink and told me she had a date afterwards and was pretty cold and short with me. I honestly don't give a shit, because there are plenty more where she came from, but I try to be nice, and give everyone a fair
chance, but how does it go from 'lets hang out asap' to 'I never want to see you again?'

She was asking questions about my dating life, and wanted to know if it was going well.

 

I agree with you completely. That is the only thing that makes sense of this, and perhaps she realized that I am not easily played. You would think that someone nearly 30 years old would be beyond game playing, but some people never grow up. Either that or she is bipolar, or perhaps some other unknown psychological problem. Maybe she was hurt in the past, and is out to take revenge on everyone because of it.

Regardless, she is done, I gave her one second chance. I don't need unreliable, dishonest, game playing people in my life.

I feel sorry for her, because in a few years if she is still acting the same way she will be alone for a very long time.

 

She asked you if you were dating girls from myspace and then asked what your intentions are. She meant what are your intentions towards her. In other words was it just a thing or something serious for you. You continued to talk about going out and dating others, so she told you that she didn't want any part of it. She was wanting to hear you say that she was something special to you and not just a hook up. Man, women think differently and you are not focusing in on the wave length.

 

Yeah, that may be true in any other circumstance, however she is the one that told me previously she wanted to date other people and did not want a commitment to any one person, so if she really wanted this to be exclusive to her she needs to step up and say something. I put myself out there once for this girl, we had really hit it off and spent a lot of time together when we first met, and I told her I wanted to try being exclusive, she burned me then, sorry not going to do that again.

Her asking my intentions was her asking my intentions in going to a place near her house.

Either way, I think we got our wires crossed, and it would have been better if she would have just picked up the phone and talked to me about it rather than just cutting it off over a text message, I personally would never say something like that to anyone over a text.