someone point me in the direction of the "i cant fuckin stay hard, or cum but the girls real fuckin hott, im nervous/excited forum?" we've tried it all.. any comments? i cant even bust myself in front of her, when shes tellin me to blast a load all over her breast, its ridiculous im stumped. gimme some lesbian porn and im done in 45 seconds. but thats just sad, im not about to pull that card just to show her spermz, anywayz i last and last with everything from this girl. i really like her, shes impressive. maybe just stage fright, but i need like a psychological explanation. i need feedback please people, i kno im not alone.
I think you know the root of your problem is anxiety/excitement over the situation. Its pretty common, and its a vicious circle because as you become more aware of the problem it gets harder and harder for you perform because you're more and more nervous. Anyway, the key is letting go of the pretense around sex with this person. Try to take the focus away from your penis and fucking. I bet, if you set a goal of doing not touching this girl with your penis for 1/2 an hour before having sex, you would be hardpressed to lose the erection. Spend a good chunk of time on her pleasure and you will probably have better luck.(PS, I'm not saying you're not giving her pleasure, i just think the focus on your performance is holding you back.) Cheers
Maybe you are just thnkin to much about it, don't look at it as a performance, like I got the dick and I must come through, it can make you apprehensive about what is going on, don't even think just react, and yeah lose the porn, it just leads to unreal expectations, just fall into each other and just think how lucky you are to be with this chick right now, Try to make her cum first, use fingers, tongue, just watching a chick get off is enough to keep you hard. Maybe that will work. Peace
right on, all these responses are good and appreciated greatly. it does seem like, as the male "role" i gotta come through. it is anxiety for sure, i'll try to turn the nervousness into excitement from now on. when im nervous its a bad vibe, i think i have to learn to transform that frame of mind into excitement. its hard to let myself go, face to face with someone, as if im used to putting up this front all the time. im so in my head.... id like to hear from eagle, hehe
wow.. right on. im sure it does, we are still getting to know each other. i mean you can know someone 10 years and not know them. i havent known my sig. other for 10 years but almost, prob 8 yrs and i still got the jitters, we just recently started to date, but it already feels as if weve spent a lifetime together
