this going to sound really lame...

but i feel like i don't know how to kiss/make out. i know with time and experience i will find my stroke but just the few times that i have used my tounge with another girl i just feel like a complete dumbass.

i just wonder how it will work next time.

should i go full force for it? or should i just kind of do nothing and let her guide me?

i just find it tough to guage it. like do you go all out? but if you do then you look all sloppy and shit and she doesn't want that. or maybe she does? but if i kind of hold back because i truley don't know what i'm doing then maybe she doesn't think she's turning me on or that i'm just a rookie (which i am when it comes to this).

it's strange because the more sexual actions i've done with a girl i feel really intune with. i haven't had sex but like i've grinded all over a girl at a Tool concert and i was just in the zone with that shit.

Then it comes to kissing and i just feel insecure about it.

like...what do you do with your tounge? hahah wow like i said i know this sounds lame as shit. but now that we've established that i'm open to some insight on this.

 

Dude, just open your mouth and lick her tongue, lol.
Try not to slobber.
You'll be swell.

 

how do you not slobber? i guess i never have. but there's so much spit involved with the whole ordeal

 

If you have a lot of saliva in your mouth, swallow it before you go in for the kill.
Be mindful of your saliva! Wet is good, but not drippy.
I'm sorry, I'm not trying to make this a joke. Just trying to lighten the mood. I used to be really afraid of it like you, but when I was in high school, I had a pushy bf to get me over those hurdles.

 

no i seriously appreciate the advice, thank you

 

No probs. Hope I helped. Good luck!

 

just talk to her, she will probably apreciate it, and think ur cute.

so shes using alot of toung on u?

some girls dont, or dont know how to do it. iv tried using toung on this girl and she doesnt extend her toung much or any like she hasnt really done it before, and doesnt really know what to do.

but this other girl is good, we use like full toung and our toungs twirl around perfectly fuck its hot.

u just need to try and slow it right down to a slow passionate toung session, so u dont go to fast and not know what ur doing. just extend ur toung and twirl it round her tough i guess.and just go with it.
but yeah try doin it slow and she will catch on. and it will get her really horny.

 

yea dude it's like each time i do it i feel the need to just slow it down. maybe it's just the girls i've kissed.

 

Hey man don't sweat it! I think its awesome your worried, I was too. But the first girl I kissed she was a bit older than me and had more of a past. The crazy thing was she thought I was better than her! Just go for what feels good man.

 

Slow is good. I hate that fast tongue fucking junk. :ack2:
Maybe I'm weird...

 

If I dig the girl and I just want to suck her face.....it's natural...just licking what you want. Yum. Just gotta be gentle, smooth, and sexy. A little tounge but I like sucking on the lips.

 

you can make out without using your tongue.

 

It's all about a gradual progression.
Start out with a mild make-out.
Then eventually slip your tongue in after a breath.
Only a little, mind you.
If she responds negatively, then you are safe because you haven't gone full force.
You are clear to continue if there are no objections.

 

i love tongue

if i kiss a girl that isnt into tounge, at first she will think its gross, then within a week or two she will love it. then after a while i would show her how she used to kiss and its sooo basic lol we'd laugh

 

The second somebody sticks their tongue in my mouth I chew it the fuck off. That whole mouth-agape, dead fish CPR thing is horrible. Hates that shit.

 

boring.... u suck. i wouldnt even date a girl that didnt use alot of tounge

 

wow

 

Tounge kissing is not hard. I used to be nervous about it too but when I finally did it I just let it flow natural, and it turned out great. If you're really that nervous about it, get more experience with it and let the nervousness go away in time and you'll be fine.

 

u havent kissed until youve tounge kisssed.

 

Then I guess I've got at least that much going for me.