Thinking about trying anal...

I'm complicated when it comes to sex. It's always been painful for me, with absolutely NO pleasure. The only thing I've ever enjoyed is oral. Not even fingering works for me, unless I'm doing it myself and then it's only the clit. I'm a very sexual person in general, but the actual act of sex sucks for me.

So anyway, I'm thinking about trying anal. We've done a little bit of anal fingering, I've even tried a vibe, but it wasn't exactly pleasurable. It didn't hurt, it didn't feel good, just WAS. Know what I mean? So I'm wondering if there's any point in doing it - will I even get anything out of it?

Just looking for some insight here. Thanks!

 

It's hard to say.

I personally don't get much out of anal sex, but I do enjoy the submissiveness of it. If you do decide to try it, make him promise to go VERY easy at first. As for not enjoying other things, it sounds to me like you're just not being turned on enough.

Here's a tip: during anal sex, reach back and massage his balls. It will make him cum almost immediately.

 

I know that's what it seems like, and that's what I thought at first, but even if I'm REALLY drunk (and I'm a horny drunk) and I'm so turned on I can't stand it, sex does very little. When I'm drunk it usually doesn't hurt as much because I'm slightly numbed and more lubed, but there's still no pleasure there. We've had hours of foreplay, gotten me right to the edge of climax, and had sex, and there's still nothing. It just brings me down off my sexual high. I told you I'm wierd.

 

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Good Advice

 

I've got a couple other tricks up my sleeve...

 

i'm the same way when it comes to vaginal pleasure, i don't really enjoy it too much, however, anal sex is another story, it doesn't hurt as bad and it feels great, so i'd say it's worth a try for you. maybe you'll feel the same way i do

 

rmorgan

I personally would love to hear more about the tricks you have up your sleeve. You sound like a very intriguing woman. I'm sure alot of us guys would love to have an adventerous open minded woman like you.

 

yeah like t-bone
he needs a woman who can pop his cherry

 

all you girls who say you dont enjoy sex:

are you using your vagina muscles?

 

If you mean the KEGEL muscles, yes, I know how to use them and no, it makes no difference. What do you think I'm doing, laying flat on my back like a fish, not moving?

 

When he lubes you up, its important to allow the muscles down there in the anus to be probed (ATBP) to adjust to being open and penetrated. All the times I've done it with a girl and gone too fast with the prep work, she has hated me for it, and usually made me stop. If you take at least 5 minutes to lube up and prepare the ATBP, its much more tolerable for the chick, from what I've experienced.

3 words: LUBE LUBE LUBE.

and it's prolly best to start off missionary position. I've found that that's the easiest. For me, its hard to control how deep I go in when I'm pretending to be a confused dog (i.e., doing it doggie style), and you really don't wanna slam it in there all at once, else you will anger the ATBP, and then nobody will have a good time.

 

atbp....hahah.

 

3 Steps

1 Lube up

2 Let her have the control

3 Go slow until she is comfortable to change the pace

 

definitely go for a try, it could turn out to be the best thing ever

 

Hmm what a curious phenomenon.

So you're like Tantalus, (who, in case you forget your Greek mythology, was eternally doomed to have apples over his head which raised when he tried to bite them, and water under his chin which lowered when he tried to drink it. For ETERNITY.) except instead there are cocks all around you and yet you cannot be penetrated! Oh my god what an awesome piece of artwork that would make!

 

masturbate while he's doing you from behind, or while he's on his knees and you on your back,it's worth a try!!

 

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what is the best position, least painful?

 

The least painful position for vaginal sex is either missionary or me on top. Usually, only the initial entry is painful, but after that it's neither pleasure nor pain. Then I'm VERY sore afterwards most of the time.

 

You find vaginal sex painful? I never had, even the first time. I guess if the guy is rather large or he is in too far it might be uncomfortable.


As far as anal sex goes, it is not so much the position but who is in control. If he is behind you, instead of him pumping into you, you move back onto him. That way you can control the speed.

The same with reverse cowgirl, when you are on top but facing away. By being on top, you can control how slow or fast it is depending on how comfortable you are and how painful you are feeling it. Remember to use lots of lube (less is not more) and after a while is does feel better especially with clit massaging.
Just take it slow at first.