Is to have sex. Agree? Or disagree? If you're already having sex then there is no point in getting married now is there? I think not.
disagree, as im alreayd having sex and i want to get married. its about declaring your love for another person
I used to think marriage was stupid, and everyone thought I was the last out of my group of friends to do it. They are all divorced or worse, and I wouldnt have it any other way.
I think women who engage in premarital sex are foolish (yep, bring on the flames). Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Sex CAN be such a bonding experience between man and wife, if held in the proper perspective.
This threads so stupid im not even going to answer the question directly Ill just say ive been in an extremely happy, monogamous sexual relationship for the past couple of years and am due to get married in Spring of next year. We loved, we let our bond grow and strengthen, we showed our love through lovemaking...now we want to declare our love to our friends, family, and God if God listens, and have a lovely ceremony where we celebrate our undying love Our words on that day will be extremely meaningful...and will go way beyond "i vow to keep you and you only as my fuckbuddy"
Marriage? Marriage is the most stupid idea that people have thought of. Why do you need to have a huge ceremony to declare your love to someone? Each time you say 'I love you' you should mean it. Marriage complicates things and makes it harder for the couple to break away from their partner if needs be. Also, it's extremely sexist. Who needs to listen to your love other than your significant other? After all, that's all that should matter.
I agree, I have never like the idea of standing in front of people declaring my love for someone. These days marriage is not so important, I agree with Luke in that you should mean it each time you say you love someone! I like the idea of a pagan hand tying ceremony - but again it would only be me and whoever I am being tied to!
How is marriage sexist? Individual marriages- perhaps- but the institution of marriage? I don't particularly think marriage is important in my own life, but it certainly is important to others depending on their religious, cultural, and social mores. I go to a Jewish school and so I know several people who married before, during, or shortly after their freshman year of college because they are Hasidic and cannot even touch a person of the opposite sex who is not in their family. I personally would think this has a lot to do with sex (imagine being 19 and never being able to so much as hold your girlfriend's hand), but that's the religion and culture. I'm almost of the opinion that if you love each other and it's mutually beneficial, why the heck not? You get tax benefits anyway. Successful marriages seem to be a lot less about love (though that certainly is the driving force) but more about happiness, stability, and compatibility. Just being in love is not enough- which is why so many marriages break up.
I find the tradition of the bride using the groom's family name totally sexist. It's an old tradition that is totally pointless in our age, and comes from when women used to be owned by the groom.
I see it as more just becoming part of the same unit. We actually discussed whether or not hed change his name to mine or mine to his, so obviously that old tradition had died out in our minds...we never even once assumed id be changing my name As it happens his name is much better for us anyway, and mine has bad connections to the past...i get what you mean though, just we never saw it like that
