Seeing a new guy..but younger than me which is unusual for me... Not out. Keeps himself to himself. We've met four times and now we both want to move it on to the next step..sex. We're both comfortable getting nude now after the 1st couple of times... And he's good at taking the lead as I'm pretty sub with guys as a rule.. But obviously nerves are kicking in as we talk about how or what to do..so I've taken the plunge and laid out how i see it going... Condoms..lube and a slow start! Will let you know how we go...
So we have definitely moved up a gear now. Planned a nice quiet evening at his... I arrived to a nice glass of Bordeaux... A dirty movie playing on his huge TV... Both kinda nervous.. As we started undressing I felt alive.. Felt so right... We sucked and stroked each other as we normally do... Holding back for that next step .. I pulled a condom out and slipped it on him.. Lying on my side he moved in behind me... Spooning... He lubed up his cock and teased my bum.. holding it over my virgin hole... Gentle pressure... Easing in... Holding me... Asking if it was ok... My mouth dry... Nodding... Reaching around to squeeze his butt...
I am so happy about you and your new "boyfriend". I wish I had one too. It's a dream of mine to find a single (!) gay man to get together with for mutual cocksucking and fucking on a regular basis (I'm so tired of the casual once or twice hookups with guys that I've been doing for many years, and the bathhouses, gay sex clubs, etc. anonymous cocksucking and fucking I've been doing for 30 years). There is a gay guy who I really really like that I see a lot socially and a couple of times so far for a little bit of naked fun with others (we're getting together one-on-one the day after tomorrow at a wooded cruising spot for what I think will be some mutual cocksucking, which we haven't done yet), but he's married, to another guy, and I have a rule against fucking married guys, even ones in open relationships like my friend. OMG, would I ever love for him to be single! Since there are very few bi guys that aren't married or in relationships (and most bi guys are a little too straight for me anyway), my only hope is a single gay man who was not looking for a husband but just a special friend with lots and lots of benefits.
I'm curious: If this married guy is in an open relationship with his partner, um, why not get the dicks out and get to sucking on them? If he has permission, then it's not considered to be cheating so, yeah, I'm curious.
The reason that I've taken a vow to not have sex (especially sexual intercourse) with anyone in a long-term relationship, even an open one, is I find inevitably there's always some jealousy and therefore pain and suffering. And I don't want to be the person causing that. And I've had this confirmed by a close friend who is a therapist in a college and has countless patients coming to her with so much suffering in their open relationships because of the sex. And yes, in this particular case, we've talked about it, and even though he admits he doesn't get too jealous with the many guys his husband fucks, his husband does feel more jealousy than her doed, even with the small numbers of guys my friend fucks. I'm a Buddhist and so believe in karma, and karma is all about how the benefit or harm we cause others will come back around as pleasure or pain respectively.m to the perpetrator. Even without the law of karma, I just don't want to hurt my friend's husband or their marriage, no matter how much I want to make love with him.
