The magic wand for a woman who has never had an orgasm?

Been married for 7 years now, we have two kids. As a married couple with 2 kids we usually schedule our sessions. which is totally boring, but that is another story. I have known my wife since she was 15, and we are still happily married. However, she claims she has never reached orgasm. I'm not sure if she prefers not to hurt my feelings or this is the truth. Doesn't really matter. our sessions last about 20 minutes after oral play. I would just like her to climax. Just seems fair, right? So we decided that toys might be the answer. I just purchased the hitachi magic wand. I was hoping to hear from other people here if this was a good purchase. We have tried the liquids to increase her sensitivity, to no avail. We purchased a glass dildo, but it didn't do the trick either. Anyways, will this magic wand, if used properly, give her the big O?

 

"we usually schedule our sessions. Which is totally boring, but that is another story"

Is it really another story? Seems like it could be part of the problem. Spontaneous sex when you have little kids can be difficult but there has to be a better way than a schedule.

"our sessions last about 20mins after oral play"

How long does oral play go for? Hopefully oral is not the only form of foreplay you are indulging in.

"Anyways, will this magic wand, if used correctly, give her the big O"

If she is turned on enough and relaxed I don't see why not but if she's saying she's never had an orgasm before at all, I wouldn't expect it to deliver like magic.

 

It took me years to figure out the riddle of my woman's pussy. Finally an 8" vibrating dildo and a pocket rocket did it. Now she really like that big vibrating dildo and a vibrating egg on her clit. The egg is powered by 3 AA batteries. She squeezes the dildo between her legs with the egg on her clit. Sometime she orgasms hile we are fucking. That's always great to have her get off with me inside her!

I get her toy from a website called healthy & active. They have been very good so far.

Good Luck! ...and of course, don't give up!

 

Get a good plug-in vibrator for her to use on herself while you bang her.

Bam.

 

A lot of women do not have orgasms with vaginal sex. And there can be a lot of reasons. Many don't have them even when the clit is stimulated. Orgasm needs to start with the brain first.. attitude, anticipation, being relaxed, as well as long before you get into bed. Having two kids and being busy can be a real mood killer. Being tired is another one.

The Hitachi is a good toy, but start much earlier than that. Make a date (sometimes scheduling can work). Sext through out the day. Buy her an erotic novel and ask her to read when she sits down for a cup of coffee or when the kids are napping. Ask her about her own fantasies and listen (don't make fun of them... I had an ex who did this and I became very self-conscious). Romance her!!!

She might need other things in addition to the Hitachi, and time might be one of them. Make sure she cums first and do everything in your power to help her do that. Ask her if she would like to be tied up or handcuffed.. that way the whole focus is on her and not what most women think they have to do... get their partner off. Not saying this is what you think, but it might be what she does, and she might not even realize it.

 

Has she had an orgasm by herself? She needs to get a viberator and have a clitoral orgasm, but she needs to be by herself and get comfortable.

 

Bringing a woman to Orgasm is easily done by a MAN who knows what MENTALLY STIMULATES this woman first.

You can do all the rubbing and licking and vibrating in the world but if she is not first brought into a Mental State of Arousal it is all for not.

About 6 years ago I bet the former girlfriend of an old buddy of mine that the REASON she had never experienced in her life an Orgasm with a Man as she had only before cum with using a vibrator or toy....was because all the men she had gone with simply did not take the time to do a bit of studying and find out what about her made her tick.

We bet Dinner and a night out on the town to the winner....either ME for making her have her first orgasm with a man....or her winning...kinda losing in my opinion....if I could not bring her to orgasm.

She wanted to start that night and I said...No...next week....Friday night as I need to figure a few things out.

What I found out from her girlfriends who I also knew was whenever sexual talk between the girls was about spankings and school....she would be extremely interested.

I also found out her stepfather used to spank her bare bottom when she was 10 years old.

On that Friday of our DATE...I asked her to come over my house for drinks first before we went out.....she was met by me at the door and I opened up a good bottle of Champagne and then after we killed that bottle and I opened up another and after she finished the first glass out of the second bottle I told her I knew EXACTLY what it was and what I would do to make her orgasm for the first time.

She said...Ya! Right!!

I was direct....I told her in an almost clinical manner why she could not achieve orgasm because she needed the feeling of once again being hand spanked by her step father and tonight...I would be her Step Father and SHE would be that naughty little girl who needed to be punished!!

As soon as I said this I could see her chest and breasts heaving as I both shocked her but excited her to such a level she barely could contain herself.

I then talked about how I had the outfit she would wear....school girl outfit....and how I would pick her up and place her down across my lap and pull down her panties and begin her punishment.

I only had to say this and before I knew it she was asking me where the outfit was...I said....in my office....she ran in without me...changed....and began to act as if she was that school girl.

I continued the act and I pulled off my pants and boxers and picked her up and placed her crotch so as it was in contact with my over sized penis and as she began to grind her crotch against it and as I pulled down her panties under that white and red pleated school girl skirt....SHE CAME!

She was thrashing so hard I could barely hold onto her and as I said a few things like her step father would and as my hand and arm came down to slap her ass for the first time....SHE CAME AGAIN!!

No penetration....just her grinding her crotch against my C@CK.

TooReal

 

My basic point is that things of this nature are of the mind and if a MAN takes the time to LEARN what mental trigger is needed to bring a woman to where they need to be...thsat woman is going to come and come again!!

TooReal

 

My wife doesn't have orgasms via sex very often and when she does it's usually when shes's on top where she can control everything, and even then 75+% of the time when she's approaching it she looses it. Bottom line it's very difficult for her to cum during sex.

Now the one sure fire way she can cum is from either her using a toy (which she's never really brought into our sex life and is her form of masturbation) or me going down on her, and when I go down on her it's no easy task. Even with some proper stimulation it will still take anywhere from 15 minutes to up to 30 minutes of deep diving to get her off at which time I feel like I visited the dentist office and had about 10 shots of Novocain as my mouth has but turned to butter. I think this is a case of you needing to rip off your glasses and put on your super suit...

That said I've dated other woman in the past who orgasmed much more easily. So food for thought there is some woman I guess have it easy or just have things internally aligned such that they achive orgasm that much easier. Who knows... All I do know is some woman are harder nuts to crack than others, but you need to be able to go the distance and bring your wife to bliss, even if it takes you an hour of going down on her, you should try. If it's making her feel good then by all means keep at it as her enjoyment or reaching orgasm is just as important as yours.

 

Now...you can do everything you just explained to get her off....OR....you can take the time to figure out what it is REALLY that she needs and is a subject that just talking a few words about it start to bring her into a state of passion?

The Body always follows the MIND.

TooReal

 

Certainly a good point TooReal and I didn't mean to suggest that I just "Guess" at what to do and hope for the best. Communication is key in many ways cause even the most experienced guy / girl may not be able to hit their partners sweat spot if there's no communication. I've had many chats with my wife and we are very open, but bottom line she is a harder nut to crack than some other woman I've dated in the past. It's not good or bad, it just is...

What I am basically saying though is some woman (like some men) have an easier time achieving the big "O" than others, whatever the reason. But definitely communication with your partner and talking about likes & dislikes and taking good direction is a big part of things like you say

 

So basically males need the observational skills of a profiler + a psychologist + a humble personality + knowledge about anatomy to maximize their efforts.

The rest is up to the female to meet a male who can do all of the above.

 

YEP!!

But men know going in that since we get to pee standing up and don't have to bleed once a month for decades....we have to give and work on a relationship a bit more than women.

I will take Standing up peeing for $1000 Alex.

TooReal

 

And that's a problem?

 

I am so calling hoax on you dude. :coffee:

 

For some males, especially younger males, yes I believe the level of observational skills to be quite retarded compared to the default awareness females tend to inherently have.

Some can learn and others cannot, but that level of being able to read body language, and see past what a female is really saying despite what she actually verbal states is VERY hard to do.

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Anyway I have an announcement to make.



I'm leaving hipforums....so this will be one of my last posts.

It's been a pleasure making conversation with MOST of you guys (there are some here who are banned or not who aren't so pleasant to talk too, but I'm sure the community already knows who those people are hahaha).

 

Hey I hope you don't leave mate. You are the voice of reason here.

 

Well I am going over the course of 58-59 days.

I'd like to wrap up all the conversations/threads I'm already involved with before I leave permanently.

Any future posters can probably find answers to their questions from how I've responded to past people with similar questions.

 

Worst troll in a while.

 

Your ability to assume fascinates me!

Love to see you take a Multiple Answer for Test!

I can see it now!

Uhh....D...no...D is a trick!

Uhh....C...no...C is the letter people would ordinarily chose as it is like the #3...the most chosen number by all people when asked chose a number from 1 to 5.

Uhhh....it must be....NONE OF THE ABOVE!! Yeah! That's it!!

Too bad None of the Above is not one of the choices! LOL!!!

TooReal