the heart bounces back, so don't worry!

it's amazing how quickly the human heart really can bounce back sometimes...as many of you may know, me and my ex-fiance broke things off almost 2 months ago. i thought the world was going to end and that i was going to curl up and die. BOY was i wrong! i am feeling better than i've felt since almost a year ago (that's when things started to deteriorate between us). it's such a liberating feeling to be single again. the sky is the limit, as far as i'm concerned!

i'm posting this for myself, and i'm posting this for the benefit of soooo many others who stay in unhappy relationships because they fear being alone, they fear change, or they love someone too much. the thing is, all the love in the world can't make you happy when you're in an unhealthy relationship with someone. sometimes breaking up is the best thing you can do for each other's happiness.

at first, it hurt like nothing has ever hurt before. it was hell for awhile. emotionally, i was very up and down for about 5 weeks. i started being social again, which helped. i talked with other people, and i found that other people in the world have been through this, and they lived, and in fact moved on. they got on with their lives and thrived without their ex. i could do the same. it would just take time to heal.

now it's only been 2 months, and while i wouldn't say i'm cured (trying to get my new life started is a challenge), i definitely can say that i feel normal again. i feel like me again. my heart was broken, but it doesn't feel broken anymore. i'd say it's pretty well healed. instead of belonging to him, it belongs to me.

as far as me and him go, we have a new relationship now, which is a very family-like kinship. of course not everyone remains friends with their exes, but i guess me and him got lucky enough to be able to patch things up and forgive each other of past hurts and move on. we now hang out as friends, and it's fun when we do. i have no more feelings for him beyond that of brotherly/sisterly love.

i'm just amazed at how fast my heart has healed. i thought it would take much longer than this...human beings can be resilient motherfuckers!

 

bump. i want people to read my posty

 

i'm glad things are working out for you

how long had you been together?

 

i'd say about 3 years, give or take...not a long time in the grand scheme of things, but the longest running relationship i've ever been in...