The condom dun dun dun...

So my boyfriend is having this thing about the condom he does not like the idea of wearing on at all... he does not want to I am on birth control but I have a fear of it not working. if there anything else I could use to? what its stupid about the whole thing is he does not want kids right now at all and he knows that birth control does not always work thats how his parents got preggo with him by just being on birth control. I need help ladies.

 

Most oral contraceptives are a pretty sure thing. I wouldn't worry about going condom-less as long as you're good at remembering to take the pill everyday.

 

I would not like the idea of having sex with someone who did not want to use protection.

What is his reason for not wanting to wear a condom?

 

The unpleasantness would be my guess.

If you're worried he might be sporting the clap, nothing but a condom will help.

If you're not, and just want a second form of birth control, many exist.

 

if you two decide to go without the condom and just rely on the pill, make sure you both get tested for std's/sti's first

 

I'm sure 99% of people would prefer not to use condems, but that's hardly the point I think...I think if hes a good one he'll understand that not useing one makes you uncomfortable...THey are a drag but serve a pretty important purpose- he should understand that.

 

haha he puts it as he wants to be "free" :huh: we were virgins when we met a year ago I have no idea how I waited till I was 17. I just have a fear of the pill not working. do any of you know of another pill I could also take with it just to be double save. I guess I just need to put him in his place :whip: lol just kidding.

 

Try ultra thin condoms.

 

I don't know. My boyfriend complains that they cause chaffing.

 

I hate those rubber socks too. I got pregnant on the pill TWICE...u know what to do? tag your monthly cycle, apparently, there is only a few hours where your fertile each month. but a guys 'sunshine' can live for a few days too! its usually somewhere in the middle of your cycle, to find it, u need to take your temperature each day and recognize the feelings that accompany your fertile time(do it until u recognize the signs of fertility yourself) ....and train your guy to, erm, sneeze elsewhere when you find it. lol.
works for me

 

Ultra thin condoms have been working fine for me, and all of my partners for ever. I haven't had a problem.

Try Lifestyles brand, Ultra Sensitive condoms. And if they chaff, use more lube. Problem solved.

 

if you cant trust/dont want to use a method of birth control and arent ready to deal with what happend when you dont use or your method fails you...SHOULDNT BE HAVING SEX...problem solved.

 

Try NaturaLamb condoms. I'm allergic to condoms and me and my boyfriend both hate them, but we tried these and it doesn't really feel too different. They are meant to protect against pregnancy, not stds though just so yall know. They're expensive too... but he steals them.
Also you could just use some spermicide and that will help.

 

Its not that we cant deal with it we just dont want a kid right now we would rather plan a kid.

 

Everyone wants a baby they have planned. Just if you arent able to feel comfterble with your choosen method of birth control its time to rethink rather or not your ready to have sex. Because being worried that your BC failed before you even miss a period is a sick feeling ( I would know from highschool bc I was having sex before I was ready) Now I use condoms and the pill bc thats what makes me feel comfterble. Maybe one of the ladys on here who are wiser than me can explain what I mean better.

 

i dont blame him or any other guy really for hating the condom. the sex can be amazing between both people but i swear the girl is thinkin "this feels good" when the guy cant. amazing forplay and a blowjob can be better than amazing sex with a condom. hate em.

 

It's your body. If he wants sex that bad, he'll wear a condom, otherwise, he can go without sex. I want to SLAP guys that whine about condoms.

 

SERIOUSLY.
I'm annoyed reading this post and knowing that SO many girls go through this issue with sexual partners...

HE wants to be "free" and not wear a condom...but what the fuck? typical selfish if i may say so (even though he may not be saying this to be an ass)... does it look like YOU'RE "free," having to remember to take the pill every day, and then still being constantly paranoid that it won't work?

It's not a question of freedom, it's your body and it's your choice if you're going to have sex with a condomless boy or not.

Power to the vaginas and their choices!

 

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