Ok, this is gonna sound weird but stick with me. One month and 9 days ago a girl from the other side of the country texted me on my walk home from school. Her text was something to the effect of "Hey i am bored so i am texting random numbers, what are you doing?" well since i didn't have anything better to do i replied "walking home from school, how about yourself" so we went on to talk for the next 2 hours on my walk home, I learned a lot about her and we really clicked. so the next 2 days we texted like texting was oxygen (that is still how we are in our first month of knowing each other we have sent and recieved 20000 text messages) and we got to know each other even better, come the second night i got home, my parents were at a dinner so i was alone, we kept talking and eventually she said "i want to say that 3 word phrase, but i dont want to scare you off" and i was like "thats exactly how i feel, most guys are afraid to say it but i feel perfectly fine saying it to you" so in a very cheesy and cute way we both sent I LOVE YOU! to each other and since then we have been dating. we talk about everything, things she won't tell her parents, things she wont even tell her older brother, what our expectations in life are, we talk about school, and life with other people. well, we are at a month and a week into our relationship and it is murder getting by on only texts and occasional phone conversations (btw forgot to mention she is in Florida and i am in California) so this summer I am planning to go out there to meet her family and get to spend time with her in person. My friends and family both took a long time to warm up to the idea that i am dating a girl on the other side of the country. So i just want some reassurance that i am not crazy for doing this. Also anyones opinions on how to getting by without having her with me (because life without the one you love by your side can really suck)
By definition you're not dating her. You're having an electronic relationship. I think you may be in for the biggest let down of your short life. Sorry!
That's a pretty serendipitous way to meet someone. Almost insists upon the idea of fate, though I may not go that far. The bottom line is, if you're really into her, give it a shot. It might turn out to be a let-down, but at least you can say you tried.
ok cool thanks im 22 she's 20 almost 21 (yes, I know, I walk home from school I don't even have enough money to get a bloody bike ugh!)
If it works for you, then go for it. Who are any other us to judge? You could meet properly, be absolutely smitten and get married. I am no psychic, so I think if you're happy that's what is important- and hopefully other people in your life will see it in such a manner.
I live in MA and my boyfriend lived in FL. It was extremely hard but we managed for awhile. We would send eachother love letters in the mail. Talk on the phone like no tomorrow, text, myspace, facebook. Whatever we could so we would feel a little less alone. He would send me his shirts sprayed with his colonge so I could feel closer to him when I was going to sleep. And every three months or so we would visit eachother for about a week. It was hard as hell and I ended up breaking it off. But we remain the best of friends. I wish you luck!!!
I always have a pessimistic view of relationships type deals like this. You can talk to her on the phone or through texts all you want but until you actually spend a good amount of time with her in person you don't really know her in my opinion. She might end up a psycho (not saying she is...) or completely different from how you perceive her through texts and phone calls. But The Imaginary Being could be right too. You guys may actually be perfect for each other so I shouldn't judge I suppose.
Seriously...this is scary. How do you know this is not some sick fuck who lives down the street and happens to have a Florida number? Maybe this can just be your text buddy. A lot of times when people get positive attention and begin to feel like somebody else out there cares they are willing to do some risky stuff (like fly out to Florida). There are plenty of girls where you live I am sure. Stick to your area.
