Taking your husband's name

This is kind of a random question, but I was just curious...

For the married ladies, did you take your husband's last name or keep your own? (Reasons? )

And for the single girls, if you do choose to get married, would you keep your name or take his?

 

i took my husband's name. he's a better man than my father, so it seemed natural. it really pleased my husband, too. he felt extremely proud adding me to his family, you know? like i bettered the bloodline and all that. such a little thing for me to do.

 

When I get married, I'll take Brian's last name. I am, for one, a traditionalist. Also, I think it's just common sense that every member of the family have the same name, something binding them together that is more tangible than genetics. At least in an ideal family, where the momma and daddy are together...not like that ever happens

 

Ahah well my best friend's mom was married to her dad for 13 years and kept her name and took his name also, so it was Wilson-Kendrick... She just remarried and took her 2nd husband's last name... Go figure.

You two have some really good points. Thanks for talkin.

 

Oooh HippyFreek, are you naming your baby Button?!?!

If so...That's awesome (congrats btw)

 

I'm undecided...
i really like the idea of being part of my husband's family, but at the same time I'm already part of a great one, i'd like him to be part of mine too.

if i do get married (personally, i prefer the civil union deal) I think i'd maybe take the route of having both my husband and I change our names to something new.

 

That pretty much sums it up for me.

 

i took his

i'd rather have his last name than my father's, and even though we're separating, and will end up divorced, i'm going to keep his name for a while. it's a good name, and i like it.

i've considered taking a matriarchal name from my family tree sometime after the divorce, but i think it would just confuse people (including me) or change my identity numerologically.

 

i'm... not sure. Depends on what his last name was, and how adamant he was about it. I like my last name, I like my initials, I feel like they really suit me. I don't think multiple names is all that confusing. My dad and I have the same last name, my mom's gone back to her maiden name (divorced), my grandma and grandpa have their own last names (she remarried after my dad was born) and my stepdad has another last name. I can keep track of 'em all, always have been able too, so it's not a big deal to me either which way

 

I would have taken his last name... My dad was adopted, his step-dad was a complete asshole. As far as online personas and pretty much any unofficial settings go, my brother and dad have both reverted to using my real grandpa's last name. So I have no emotional connection to my current last name and would be more than happy to get rid of it.

However, I'm going for a career in academia and have already published articles using this last name... So changing it now would just make things unnecessarily confusing...

 

As soon as I was married, I wasted no time taking on my husband's last name. I had absolutely no problem with doing it either. I'm still my own person, despite having the same last name as my husband.

 

i also took my husband's name; i don't mind being identified with him, lol. Besides, it's a nice symbol of my new life with him, etc.

I didn't like having a different last name than my son (he was born three months before his daddy and i got married). It just seemed awkward, and of course people ask too many questions about it. My poor great-grandma didn't know what to call my man for those few months ("your husband--er, boyfriend? what do i call him???" "Grandma...just call him 'Dale'" lol).

Ladies who have publised work, or are otherwise well-known, should of course keep their own last names, or hyphenate, because it could easily effect their careers if they don't. For most of us regular women though, it's pretty much expected that we'd change our names at least once in our lives, and people rarely think twice about it.

 

hahaha...no, not naming the baby button...But we're waiting until Button's born to find out if it's a baby boy or a baby girl. and because I hate saying "it", I gave him/her a nickname. I call the baby Button until we can name him/her properly.

Boy: Declan Martin
Girl: Not quite sure, but plenty of time to figure that out.

 

I think I'd keep mine and take his also so it'd be like Johanna mylastname-hislastname. I also think it'd be nice if he did the same.

 

I am taking his last name. Nothing would make me happier than to have that connection. We're all taking his last name actually... though my kids aren't biologically his they know he is their dad and the only one they have ever known and I know carrying his last name will mean alot to them. He was there when their blood father wasn't... and sadly he never will be there, enough said. Plus, all our childern will have the same name. We are expecting our first together... we want them to know and feel like because they are not from his genes they still mean as much to him as our childern who will be his biologically. Besides, they are all tied at the heart... they were def meant to be his childern. They even resemble him(no, their father doesn't resemble him in the least bit)... lol.

 

I will do what kozmic blue's doing. I am in the art field, and a name is very important there. My last name is pretty unusual, and I don't want to give it up. So I will add his to mine, but for the eventual kids we have to choose one, but I am perfectly fine if they get his name. because then there's the thing with the whole family having the same name, that's very important too me too.

 

you don't have to choose one for the kids, your children can have hyphenated names, too.

 

That's what I'd want to do, I'd want her to take mine as well as me take hers. And my name is boring and stupid anyway.

 

I don't particularly like my last name. It's not a good name and I have no emotional connection to it. I thought for a long time I would do the hyphenating thing...but I'm beginning to realize more and more, I don't feel a part of my family, so why keep a family name that I really have ties to? Chances are, the guy I end up will have a family much closer than mine. And being entered into a family unit that will be much closer, I will want to be a part of that too.

Does that make sense?

 

Soooooooooo, when's the big day?



I didn't take my first husbands name, just kept mine. Probably because I knew it wasn't the right marriage, even though I spent 13 years on it. I did take sig other's name. I felt good about this marriage, I did the asking even. And I like his name - it is unusual and has lots of r's and a's - goes nicely with Tara