Stupid Bullshit /rant Please comment?

So like two weeks ago my cousin and two friends come stay with me to drink and party and shit. As soon as they get in town, my cousin starts makin stupid ass comments about how I'm gay, or how I must have popped boners in my art class (live nude models), yadda yadda. I let it roll off my back, didn't really let it bother me. (point of me saying this is just to give you an idea of the atmosphere he presents himself in this particular night)

Later on, we are all drunk, back at my house and my cousin goes downstairs to 'pass out' - he is just sleeping, not really that drunk. My roommate and I go downstairs to fuck with him because that's just what we do when we are drunk.

So we go downstairs with a couple markers, planning on marking him up a bit. He wakes up but we poke his legs with markers anyways. He proceeds to FLIP THE FUCK out, kicks me, tackles me and then chokes me. Literally puts his hands around my neck and chokes me. I was drunk and thought he was fucking around and didn't really do anything (plus I'm way smaller than he is) until he started choking me. That pissed me off, but I wasn't about to try and physically hurt him.

About 30 minutes later we go downstairs to flip the couch he is sleeping on and he wakes up and is super pissed again. Throws shit at me, when I didn't even flip it for one thing, and then he charges me, runs up the stairs and literally spears me, throws me down and chokes me again. I manage to pull his hands off of me and then he BITES me. Seriously. BITES me. I still have a bruise from it on my arm...

The next day he wouldn't even look at me, even when I was being friendly. He was just fucking livid, still.

It gets better - apparently he is still pissed off at me...why? I have no idea. Because I put marker on him at 1 AM when everyone else in the house is awake?

Should I be surprised? Should I be mad at him? Because really, I am only mad that he is still butthurt over it. I'm not trying to make a huge deal out of it and was willing to just drop it the next day, even seeing how it was so fucked up for him to have PUT HIS HANDS AROUND MY THROAT AND CUT THE AIR OFF...the longer he is holding a grudge, the more I just want to not deal with his bullshit anymore. It isn't the first time he's taken things way too far and it isn't the first time he makes stupid remarks about me (he does it all the time)

I'm just wondering - what do I do? I texted him tonight and asked him if he was still pissed but he never responded. My friends say that he wants me to apologize, but I've 'apologized' for his mistreatment of me before and I'm sure as hell not going to apologize for him trying to kill me. Seriously, kill me.

 

I can understand your cousin being pissed when he's woken up by someone, especially someone trying to fuck with him.. I know I'm the same.. but it's pretty obvious that he has some anger issues if he starts to seriously choke you over that.

I would just disregard the situation completely. If he's going to treat you like a sack of shit even when you try to compromise and act understanding towards him then.. fuck it. Either he'll come around and try to contact you or he's going to make you apologize to him, then he'll come back around and pull some more bullshit on you all over again.

 

I mean yeah, I didn't expect him to be all happy that we woke him up, but we were all drunk and just messing around. But should he really be holding a grudge still? It's a fucking marker, it washes off. He comes to my house, fully knowing that we get fucking trashed and we fuck with people that pass out. But I get a bruise from BITING and he is the one still mad...????

I don't get it

 

Is he 9? Who the hell bites people?

 

He shouldn't still be pissed, but he obviously is, and seems to be acting pretty immature about the entire situation.

Like I'm trying to say, he seems to just have problems handling such situations mentally. Maybe he's afraid of being a joke which other people laugh at -> violent attacks and him cracking jokes at other people's expense to keep attention away from himself.

Either way, I wouldn't try hard to gain his approval if he's pulled shit like this before and probably will continue to do such.

 

word, thanks for the solid advice cannabis.

I mean, me and him grew up together and have been pretty close, but lately I've had more and more falling out with him, so this just adds like a kerosene tank to the fire.

Makes me realize even more that I need to distance myself from him and this sort of negativity. I'll be his friend, but I haven't been the sort of friend we used to be in a long time. I'm not sure if he noticed or not, but he's just not worth trying to be tight with if he's a giant dick to the core.

 

Don't fuck with people that have anger issues.

 

or have the genetic predisposition of vikings..:2thumbsup:

 

Yarrgghh!

 

good job on handling the situation the right way. but if somebody did that to me id whoop their ass, even if it was my cousin

 

if it was me, id tell him he wasnt welcome aroun' hea no mo. family or not, you dont have to put up with that treatment. tell him when he can act like an adult human being he can try again. fucking with drunk people is a tradition from what i understand, and his reaction was completely unacceptable. choking? biting? what if it was a pet that woke him up, or a child? not that i havent kicked my cat off the bed, but still. tell him to deal with his anger issues.

i would not put up with that behavior. cut those kinds of people out of your life, or distance yourself from them enough that their presence is manageable in small doses. you do not have to enable this kind of behavior, though now it seems to be expected of you. youve set precedent and all that by apologizing for his issues in the past (at least thats what i got out of the posts) hey, maybe he doesnt even realize he did something wrong. maybe he was secretly raised by vikings.

 

Well first of all, he does sort of sound like a douche.

Second, if anyone fucks with me while I'm asleep, I'll be one unhappy camper, and if they didn't know me, I'd probably break their face, but in his situation, I'd dip out and find somewhere to crash where no one would fuck with me, and distance myself from you until you grow up a bit. Sleep is personal time, and if you let someone crash at your place, you're agreeing to respect that time. You shouldn't have to sleep with one eye open just because you're tired before everyone else.

Just because there's fuckhead frat boys who fuck with each other, doesn't make it ok, it just means if you act like them, you're a fuckhead too. Maybe if someone's a real bitch to you, and then passes out uninvited on your doormat, you can draw some dicks on them, but that's a different situation.

tl;dr: your cousin was being a douche, and so where you

 

sounds like he already took that initiative himself.

The biting is probably a little extreme but honestly I probably would have reacted the same way if I wanted to sleep and a bunch of drunk tards tried to come write on me.

 

It all depends on how much you really want him around.

You could say-"Hey dude sorry-we went out the other night-we all got pretty drunk-we were just fooling around with you-we may have taken it too far-I'm sorry if you think that we did."

Yea he should have blown it off the next day-but some people aren't that cool. Is he a bad guy-it's your call. But maybe he feels that you giuys took it too far-you don't think that-but you can be the bigger man-you're not apologizing for doing it-maybe just taking it a bit too far.

 

Beat his ass or I'll beat yours for being a pussy.

-Step-brother-Sam

 

You will in 10 years time when he divorces the wife so he can live with his boyfriend.


I'm serious, if the anger is disproportionatly directed at you, anger like that only means one of two things, a total Narnian (deep in the closet) or got jabbed my Father Murphy when he was younger. Given the stupid jokes I'd go with the first one. I think he wants to play Doctors and Doctors

 

Knackers bai, standard. Friend of mine had the bridge of his nose bitten, nearly lost the tip after being started on by a load of travellers. Pure fucking scum.

Drunk play fights among my friends have turned into chokeholds and kickings sometimes but thats never out of anger. Asleep people have been getting fucked with since the discovery of alcohol, if yer mans going to be a total cock about it then just leave it up to him. He's the one with the grudge and if he has any brains ticking about in his head then he'll realise how much of a spastic he's being.

 

again, i wouldn't expect anyone to be happy about being woken up, but it's just fun and games, if he wanted to take a swing at my body, whatever, i just cross the line when it involves the face, genitals, throat or biting...

i agree that sleeping is your own time, i get pissed when people fuck with me when I sleep, but I also don't try to sleep with a house full of people...i'm not trying to justify me fucking with people in their sleep after we've been drinking, i'm just saying from one 19 year old to another - you're kind of a baby back bitch if you are gonna whine about that kinda thing.

we aren't 'fuckhead frat boys' either (quite the opposite). we just drink a lot, sorry you can't hang.:afro:

Yeah i'm never going to apologize for this incident...I may have been fucking with somebody (i say 'I' loosely here) but it was all in innocent, drunken fun. The physical attack is what was taken too far.



good comments by everybody else.

I texted him last night and he texted me back this morning saying 'sorry man, i was just pissed because i had to wake up at 7 the next morning.'

I said it's alright just for the sake of not having any tension from him like that, because he hangs out with the same people I do.

I'm put on edge around him, I'm not going to fuck with him anymore, I'm not even gonna joke with him. If he makes one more smart ass comment I'm just gonna tell him to drop it.

Guh...about the closet comment - that's pretty funny, because people have said something about that before and if he hears about it, he gets pissed. He gets with as many girls as he can, almost to a point that he is trying to prove something. Well...it makes it definitely sound as if he is trying to prove something when he talks about them as much as he does.

The thing about him, is that he will drop shit eventually and completely ignore it like it never happened. Which kind of pisses me off because he's made me pretty pissed about shit before(talking shit on me in front of other people, calling me a fag, causing public scenes of him screaming his head off, straight up disrespect, and now physical assault). I end up going along with him and ignore it just for the sake of not having tension - but I still hold it in, which causes a lot of disruption within myself.

I've already become less of a really good friend towards him as it is, this is just another jump away from that. I can't say I'm entirely upset about it.

 

Tell him hes a fuck face and either apoligize for trying to KILL you or go jump off a bridge.

 

I think name-calling is one of the reasons this mess even started...

Lack of respect - I suppose on both ends. (though I would argue mine was harmless and not intended to be hurtful. emotionally or physically)

I'm not even going to deal with it with him, unless he brings it up. I'll lay it on him if he shows a desire to talk about it, but otherwise, no.