I wonder, are there any men here who like strong women (I mean both physically and in character, like dominating...)?
Curiosity question or...? Do you consider yourself to be 'strong'? If so, in what aspect(s)? I Like women of strong character. No real preferences on physical strength. Dominating? Well it can be a character facet but...
I love women who are emtionally strong and assertive. I don't like dating meek women. I have an assertive personality, and I like a girl to be able to stand up to that and tell me what she thinks. Physical strength is good too. Dominating doesn't sound like theres respect, so no. I'm not going to be dominated by anyone. If she has a Dom fantasy that could be different.
i'm strong in mind and usually in body. don't really seem to have any problems. there's the occaisionaly scared or irritated guy, but that just means they're not meant to be my friend or mate.
I prefer a woman with strong character. Physical strength is neither a turn-on nor a turn-off, although someone who can help move the couch is useful. But I don't see domineering, controlling, bitchy women (or men either, for that matter) as strong. I see them as weak and sad. As others here have indicated, I've known quite a few people like that. Usually, they've been abused at some point in their lives; often, by more than one abuser. I used to feel sorry for women like that. I used to try to help. But I've discovered that that type of person is a black hole that can never be filled with enough love and attention, a bottomless pit of pain and suspicion and projection and self-obsession. They're always waiting on hair-trigger, ready to pounce and show you just how strong they are. And their strengths? Put-downs, belittlement, threats, and other kinds of verbal abuse, occasionally intermingled with smashing your stuff or even physically attacking you. Not for me, thanks. That type (like I said, it comes in both the male and female variety) doesn't need a spouse or a lover. It needs a counselor.
Amen, brother. A strong person is confident in their own selfhood. Being disagreed with does not threaten them. It takes strength to publicly change your mind. It takes confidence to give in on a relatively unimportant matters. I like strong women. Among other things, they are helpful when it comes to shoveling the shit out of my head.
Yeah, I think there is a line you have to draw, between what is actually strong, and what is actually dangerous and out of control. I feel that assertiveness in ANYONE is a strong trait. I feel that when someone is too aggressive it's the result of some other inner struggle or insecurity. No one should feel the need to constantly be controlling others or personally attacking others. Physically, I think only in the bedroom, and only if the partner enjoys it, should it be acceptable. I have a number of dominatrix-y type fantasies, however, I would never act upon them unless my fiancee wanted it. It can be an invasion of someone's space, and hurt a person's feelings if you do something to the effect without first knowing it doesn't bother them. I know for a fact if I just one day, started whipping my man on the ass during sex, he would probably be pretty pissed off at me for a while. He doesn't get turned on by things like so. Mentally speaking, again, I know women [too many actually] that seem to think that aggressiveness makes them stronger, when in reality, anyone from the outside can see that they are out of control. That isn't being strong, it's abuse. My roomie has this pattern, which both my fiancee and I see clearly and it drives us nuts... She's constantly always demanding, never asking, never compromising... and sometimes she even goes as far as to slap him really hard on the shoulder and what not if he jokes with her and she takes offense. Playing or not, I don't think hitting is acceptable under any circumstances, unless, like I said it's some sort of sexual fantasy the two of you share. Too many people have the wrong impression of what "strong" should amount to, in my opinion. Demanding jewelry and money off your SO and never compromising isn't strong, it's abusive.
I wish to be strong, I mean I've been working hard to pass all my exams since always, now I'm a university graduate and I intend to get my master's degree next year. I will be independent financially, I'll get a good job, and really I don't feel like I'd be unhappy to remain single.
Sounds like a Good foundation/ goals. Not sure how to take the first phrase though. Is this a future goal or one already reached and you're expressing the desire to maintain it...?
How does any of this make one strong? Just curious. I know far too many idiots who have master's degrees, and far too many strong women who are highly intelligent, who simply did not go the university route. And again, financial independance, and being happily single, still doesn't make one a strong person. I'm just confused on your definition as strong is all.
Yeah, my boyfriend was quite happy this week since we were moving that I am very physically strong. I carried the dryer in all by myself and I had to help him lift this 235lb tv (don't ask why he purchased such a stupid object). Course I'm a personal trainer and lift weights all of the time. He likes it better that way, but more importantly, I like me better this way.
it's a bit unfair, though. because after working really hard to become good at your profession and deserving a bit of respect, it really sucks to have to play that sweetie pie big titty idiot to get what you need when asking outright will just get you called a bitch. i HATED that.
I was going to ask the same question. I don't think your intelligence, nor your strength, is based on what degree you have. I know people who are booksmart, but socially retarded. I know people with IQ's of over 160 that are meek and mild. I think there is a fine line between GOOD strength/assertiveness and bad strength/assertiveness. IF you are too "in your face" about things...that's going to turn anyone off.
I had no idea 'strong' has over 21 definitions exclusive of the subs. While prolly not the best choice, the word 'strong' appears to be properly used for each of the discussed, quoted points... My two bits...
Well, whether or not someone has a degree does not in my book make them a strong character. Those are my bits.
Hmmm... I dont necessarily associate "strength" with "assertiveness". Some women I know are quite shy and introverted, but deep down they are as tough as nails and very good survivors... but everyone has their own personal definition for most things.
I am nothing like that. I'm only thinking, should I become like that? I guess it may be like a defense mechanism for being shy.
