Strip Clubs...

I was just wondering how, in general, girlfriends/wifes feel about their man going to a strip club?

 

Sure, my partner can go. I will also be sitting right there.

 

Sorry to bust in on a woman's thread, but I have some experience here.
I managed 6 different strip clubs over the years before I finally married and started a family. (I have a furniture store now)
Most women shouldn't freak out if there old man goes to a club every now and then to blow off some steam. It's a great way to stay faithful to your wife and get some of the alley cat out of your system. Men naturally desire more than one women, and it is a conscience choice and commitment if we decide to be faithful to one. Strip clubs help us trick our subconscience into thinking we "got some strange" even though we didn't. Then we can go home to the one we truly love and care about.
Now, with that bull shit said, if he spends too much time there, some bitch may be taking him for a ride and putting him (and you) in serious debt. I've seen guys, over a period of time loose their homes, credit and their families. Some guys are too stupid to know "it isn't real".

 

I think I would much rather they looked at porn, personally. Pornography - it's far and distant. It's not within an arms reach of ogling, it's not reacting to my guy at the time. It also costs less if you get the free stuff off the net.

 

My boyfriend doesn't like strip clubs. He has gone to various ones on occasion for a bachelor party or something (or pressured into going when younger -- apparently guys who don't hit on every girl that walks by must be "gay" where he grew up). They just make him feel cheap, like he is personally degrading that woman up there.

I'm not sure I could handle being with a man who wanted to go to strip clubs. I'd have to agree with ihmurria, I'd rather he just watch an image on a screen than actually be in the presence of the naked other woman.

 

It would have to work both ways, if my boyfriend can feel completely comfortable with me going to a male strip show then I would be ok with him going to his own. Not that I would really want to go because penises aren't too pretty, but still, the fact remains that if he wouldn't be jealous about how I amuse myself then I won't be about his doings.

 

my boyfriend and I go together! It's fun!

 

I wonder if this has dawned on gals w/'club' problems?

Nahhhhh...too simple. *L*

 

Hes aloud to go... We go together and apart.. (Sometimes he need to go by himself to have fun .. what fun would it be always having me there) My ex-boyfriend worked at one... I met alot of the strippes... many of them were very very nice and would come and give me hugs when i would stop in (illeagaly (underage)) to see my ex... Some we nast skanks that i would not trust and did not like at all.. but my current boyfriend and i go together and seperatly...

 

My thoughts exactly!

 

I hate it when someone says "oh all men should to go to strip clubs to blow off steam or stay faithful." Or just "all men do it get over it!" Maybe a lot of guys do, but there are lots of guys who don't have to go to stay faithful! You also don't have to settle for someone who does go to them if it makes you feel bad. There are guys who will at least respect your relationship (if you tell him you don't like him going) if they wouldn't stop going on their own. All I'm saying is NOT "all guys do it". It's not "neccessary" for blowing off steam...you know how bout going to some sort of game to hang out with the boys? The only way I would be ok with my husband going would be if I got to go out with a friend to get random guys to buy me drinks all night. Fortunatly for me my husband doesn't even go since we got together (he went while he WASN'T getting any, I thought that was what they were for)

 

We go together all the time! Women's bodies are beautiful, and I like looking at them.

 

We went to one together on our first unofficial date. It was fun, there were some lovely, and some not so lovely women there, and we both got lapdances and chatted with some of the girls. It was just a good time. And we went with my best friend and her husband whenever they visited for a bit. I don't recall him ever going again after that ... maybe once or twice?...except for the night before our wedding. His best friend took him to one, but he called me after they left and said it was a good thing he got in free (for being military) because otherwise it would have been a waste of money. haha, he said most all the guys there were pretty deperate looking, and sad. He didn't feel that scene anymore and he doesn't seem to want to go again. I don't mind if he goes, as long as he doesn't try to hide it from me, and as long as it doesn't become a costly habit like it can for some people. That would mean something was wrong. Otherwise, yeah, I couldn't care less. I pretty much feel the same way about porn.

 

Oh lord, I hate that too. It's just a bunch of BS as far as I'm concerned.

Absolutely! Good relationships involve respect for each other's feelings, and any couple who can't respect each other on issues such as this, or even TRY to compromise, has a bigger problem in the relationship. And no one has to put up with it when someone won't respect their wishes...especially about issues like this and porn, which so many people have trouble with in relationships.

 

I remember this guy that I had known for a long time asked me out for an official date (I was almost 17 then so "old enough" for him") and so I get in the car and we are discusssing what we should do and not 15 minutes into the date he said "wanna go to the strip club? I can get you in" Nah, it's not my really my thing - heh, especially for a first date! geez (and I was so turned off by him from that moment on and boy did the night just get worse) I had a really close friend who stripped and I considered "cocktail" waitressing there for extra money, but I decided against it cause I really wouldn't be comfortable doing that or working in that enviorment. I've never really dated a guy who was into strip clubs (my ex thought they were "nasty places") and I know I wouldnt be comfortable with a guy who enjoyed going there.....on the same note I wouldn't go to a male strip club either. For one of my friend's 18th b-day, her mom (yes mom) ordered a male stripper to come to her party and I was really grossed out when he tried rubbing his sweaty ass on my lap. ugh It's really just not for me.

 

if I can go with!

 

I completley agree with this if I didn't like them I wouldn't want whoever I was with to go either and I certainly wouldn't want anyone I was with to go alone.

 

"His best friend took him to one, but he called me after they left and said it was a good thing he got in free (for being military) because otherwise it would have been a waste of money. haha, he said most all the guys there were pretty deperate looking, and sad. He didn't feel that scene anymore and he doesn't seem to want to go again."

Now see, I've been to strip clubs and it's mostly single guys and desperate guys and guys who don't like to be with their wife. Your guy liked them, ya'll went together, yet still, because has a happy home with you (and can get some whenever he wants probably *wink*), he's "not really into that scene anymore". Hell me and Chris went a couple times while we were dating and once after. I like women...I'd really rather us go to a club and try to chat up non strippers if we ever decide to look for a girl to share though lol. But I really don't like the idea of him going by himself (more because of the type of friends he has than anything else) and whenever he's been asked he's chosen to stay at home and get some! lol

 

I go with my man to the clubs!!!! Love it!!!!

 

My husband and I don't go, and neither of us has ever been. He has no intrest, and I don't really care one way or the other.