I'm not talking old friends who know your heart and soul...I'm talking about new people. All of the straight people I've come out to act wierd. The guys all think that I'm this crazy sex fiend who goes around having threesomes and making out with every girl I meet...and the girls all think that I'm attracted to them. The girls either act wierd and communicate bluntly that they're not gay (like I was interested in the first place!), they flirt with me, or treat me like some experiment...like if they go through a bi phase I'll break them in. And I'm rarely/almost never attracted to straight girls in the first place. It's a big turnoff for me. All of this makes me really uncomfortable. I'd rather just be seen as ME. But what can I do? When it comes up I'm not going to lie...and word spreads fast.
To be honest, I don't seem to have had that problem. Certainly, my straight friends do act slightly different around me once they have found out that I'm gay. But with new people I meet, most guys don't seem to think that I'm always checking them out or anything. (Even if I am... occasionally... :tongue: ) There have been a couple times when I've had to explain that I'm not some crazy slut that goes around and has sex with every gay guy I meet. But aside from a few times, all the straight people I've met have been pretty good. That's why I love southern Maine. Now, if I lived in NORTHERN Maine, it would be a completely different story.
I'm bi and in the bible belt too, though most people I hangout with are liberal and/or just don't care what your orientation is. I try to avoid the neocons and the fundamentalists. The few guys I've told I'm bi that I didn't know really well before hand took it fine and didn't act weird or anything.
yeah ur right, words spreads WAY too fast. i came out senior year of highschool and about after a week all i hard was "your gay"?! i noticed one or two people acting badly, but everyone else was great, and a few treated me better lol. men and women function differently, so im guessing maybe straight women dont always act the same when hearing that information, whereas a guy might not (it seems like it would be the other way around....) then again...i live in oregon lol i cant think of much that isnt accepted here (besides gay marriage *shakes fist*, but that isnt accepted in many places.....but there was also a time when people weren't allowed to drink from fountains because of their skin color) but im sorry ppl do that, its so unnecessary ....
More people from northern Maine are republican and closed-minded than in southern Maine. However, this is a pretty harsh generalization and I realize that there are plenty of people up there that aren't like that.
I am strait, but my two best friends are lesbian. By getting to know them I have gotten to know many in the GLBT community. I know that if I met a gay person ten years ago I would have acted much different than I do now. I have been hit on by a couple of gay men before. I just accept the compliment and let them know I am strait, no problems. Ten years ago I would have freaked.
