Does this term offend you? It offends me... I'm not straight, and I don't want the way I act to be prettied up in a nice little "Straight-esque" bow. Well, it doesn't actually offend me. Nothing really offends me in any way. I just think it's a pretty wack saying. And besides, what happend to "Masculine/feminine"? There's a thing about gay men not wanting to be called feminine? Well, I never applied gender to masculine/feminine, I just always thought some things were more masculine, and some were more feminine... some things are yin, some are yang.
I can see how it offends people, but for me.. i've kinda detatched the literal meaning of 'straight-acting', for it to mean more typically male.. i guess.. I agree with you on the masc/fem things. Both bioogical sexes have masc/fem qualities regardless of sexuality.
That's what I mean when I say masculine. More typically male. But I don't want to group myself with a sexual preference that I don't belong to ya know? It's like... I wouldn't call myself "Gay acting" if I were more feminine, and I think "Gay-acting" would definitely offend any gay dude...
yeah, seems like every gay guy hates the "labels". I don't think anyone says these things thinking they will offend anyone. It is a way to charactize someone. I know that i like "straight acting", "masculine" guys, meaning, i like guys that are guys. Where you don't know their sexuality when they open their mouth or by their mannerisms. I don't know..
Look at it this way: I'm a gay man, so however I act, that's "gay-acting." Not all gay men act the same, so the term "gay-acting" is not very accurate. In fact, the way some gay men act is similar to the way some nongay men act. Even "masculine" and "feminine," even though most of us usually have the same idea of what they mean, can be very misleading. My sister refers to the way I act as "butch" sometimes. Maybe that's why I use "butch" and "femme" instead of "masculine" and "feminine" to refer to people and things. It seems like younger guys are particularly uncomfortable with labels. My sister and my bf and I know a guy (27) who objects to me referring to myself as gay. The young guy is bisexual and he tells me that I might fall in love with a girl some day. I don't know; I think 44 years is a pretty long streak. But that's another story.
yeah, i don't understand why everyone hates all the "labels". If your gay, your gay. If your bi, your bi. Avoiding labels seems like your denying it. It is just a description of your sexuality, its not like they have a negative connotation.
That's true, but sometimes people don't fit the labels exactly. If anything, we're organic beings. We don't necessarily have rules to conform to. There are still so many questions about us that remain unanswered. I'd have to believe, if anything, sexuality is merely a percentage in either direction that's subject to change.
How else would someone say in a personals ad that he doesn't mince around, lisp, have an Eminem haircut and a Bobby Trendy type of attitude? I REALISE not all gays act that way, but I mean, I can see how if someone's into a guy they wouldn't want someone that makes Pee Wee Herman look butch.
Ive always been told that I'm not "gay enough." Whatever the hell that means. I guess I'm "straight" acting, but I always tell people, I'm gay, does that mean I have to talk with a lisp, have a limp wrist and march in gay pride parades waving a rainbow flag in the air? Thats not my style. I'm just me and dont try to "act" like everybody else like so many other gay people I know and have met.
It's all about being true to yourself and others, not being in some sort of clique IMO. "It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not."
see, for me, it isnt like that. I like men, positive, always have. I can acknowlege what a pretty women looks like, but it does nothing for me. Vaginas are gross..MY sexuality isnt a percentage, and is definently not going to change, but that obviously doesn't hold true for everyone
Just to be mean, maybe you're 100% gay and in like ten days you may move around on the scale a bit. Ah whatever. You're still gay, and gays rock.
My bf and my sister and I know a young guy who is bisexual who hates labels. When I found out that he had a bf and he worked as a bartender in a gay bar, I assumed that he was gay. He was very quick to say that he was bisexual and that he hated labels. However, he was talking to me and my bf earlier this week and a woman asked us for directions. He went over and talked to her for a long time and came back to us and announced, "I'm straight. She's hot." So much for hating labels.
I don't think theres a such thing as 'gay-acting' or 'straight-acting', your sexuality dosn't detirmine how you act! The only things I'd consider 'gay-acting' or 'straight-acting' would be making out with your bf/gf or whatever.
