Hi, my GF shazza wants to split over a naughty thing I recently did. I was caught self loving after seeing some boob action in the latest spartacus. When I say caught, I should say spied on. She asked me if I did such a deed and caught me out for lying about it, but didn't allow me to speak what I needed to say during the ordeal for over an hour, like 4 words before being talked down and over, and I don't do screaming matches hey. She lives upstairs with her kids, I'm downstairs in a unit. The first time she spied me she admitted to self lovin to the sight of me in the yard. Then for my Birthday recently she wanted to watch porn with me to have a little fun. Told me how much she loves watching me get off to other girls. I'm pretty new to full on relationships, porn to me was always a private past time, and my guts went at watching it with a girl and needing to perform in a voyeuristic manor not paying her full attention. Now the scary part is we've experienced telepathic sexual links with each other in the past and every time I'm spied upon under her intuition of foul play at this moment of private internal fascination, I'm dreaming "I wish she was riding it", after her crashing off to bed upstairs earlier. I'm not perfect, I know it, but are a little confused after hearing that the porn treat around my birthday was just a present. Even though she has been watching the same livecam vids of girls getting off "thinking about me getting off" around the same frenzy on her own... I kinda feel done in about being spied on. But fascinated by this woman who can feel what I'm feeling without me being present. We get on great too. Basically I'm in the crap for her feeling insecure about my attraction to her because of porn, when porn is something I feel little for anymore... What should I do?
there is no salvaging a relationship after one person has spied on another....she will never stop spying and i think we both know what it is that you are gonna ''never stop'' lol say goodbye...if the half a percent that this relationship has to succeed prevails it will be because you dumped her and she then realizes her mistake and somehow makes up for it i say -dump-
Who says once a spy always a spy? If your spying revealed your partner to be a liar, then you dump him. That negates the need for future spying? What do you think? Call the epic "the spy who loved me till she knew me.." Dump him girl! Not vice versa.
She needs to quit being crazy and let you masturbate in peace. You're not doing other chicks, you're just doing yourself, so she has nothing to be mad about.
This is an issue as she caught you masturbating? Wow. She should have ignored it, smiled or joined in. There should be no issue at all with you masturbating. Maybe you need to speak openly with each other about this on the off chance that she simply over reacted due to being surprised.
