Sterilization Should Be Available To All.

Ok... I am so totally pissed I feel like screaming.

I desperately want to be sterilized. I have thought about it for years ............ I have no doubts about this and I do not want to take any chances of ever possibly getting pregnant. Well today I asked about it at my exam, only to be told something like, "well doctors are not going to sterilize you ...... they would want you to wait until you are older or have had a few children...."

.......... THIS IS ABSOLUTE FUCKING BULLSHIT!!!!! I am 25 going on 26 this year. I am old enough to know what I want in this fucking life and am woman enough to live with whatever decision I make! And why should AGE have anything to do with a womans decision anyway????? ITS HER GODDAMMNED BODY.

Why the fuck should I be subjected to birth control pills that can leave me with a chance of getting pregnant? I tried to explain that I couldnt even remember to take my Zoloft (anti-depressant) when I was supposed to... and if the birth control's effectiveness is based on being sure to take it routinely and at the same time every day ........ it wouldnt be effective for me. She threw me some bullshit about using condoms or something, "or you can use condoms... condoms work if they are used properly!" .... LIKE, wtf???

How can women be subjected to this? If something is available then why cant we get it? How can they withhold something that we know is best for us?? How can THEY be the ones to tell us what we can and cannot do -with OUR bodies- and do our thinking for us, and tell us what age we should be, and think "hmm maybe this girl may want kids in the future, so I'll deny her sterilization"


Oh... to top it all off ...... I couldnt even leave the clinic with a prescription FOR birth control pills, because I had elevated blood pressure and she wouldnt give me the pills!

Like, now what the HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?? Gee, maybe I'll just say FORGET THE WHOLE FUCKING THING .....................................................and go back to my life of freakin miserable ABSTINENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

*hugs* I know it's hard when you can't get the medical system to cooperate. Have you thought about an IUD or those arm implants? That would be a long-term solution, and by the time they're finished, maybe you can find a doc to help you.

 

A lot of my friends are going through something similar, these are women in their late 20s early 30s who have had all the children they want and desperatly want to make sure they won't get pregnant again. They all want their tubes tied and are told they are too young and might still want more children. 2 of these women already have 3 children and REALLY don't want anymore! Its ridiculous!

 

wow, that is bs, i'd look into it further, it's likley he knows not what he's talking about

 

have you thought about phoning around to get another opinion from a different doc?

 

Go to a different doctor. My cousin had her tubes cut and tied when she was 23, and she didn't have any kids.

 

I've never been on hormonal BC cos of various reasons the no. 1 being that I couldn't rely on myself to take them regularly and if you don't take them regularly then you might as well not take them at all.

I'm on the IUD. There are some rumours that the IUD may adversely affect fertility, may affect the uterus, I dunno. It was mainly with the older copper iud's and not with the new plastic iud's. In either case if it does happen well then you get your wish .

I'm quite happy with the IUD. Never got preg, never have to remember to take a pill and the more I read the forums the more I realize how spared I was of some of the problems many women had with hormonal BC such as moodiness and weight gain. Now that I remember, those were the reasons why I chose not to go on hormonal BC.

 

i had two kids after very harrowing pregnancies. when i told my doc i wanted my tubal ligation he was all for it, since i have extremely erratic blood pressure. hell, he woulda done it after the first. i just put it off because i really did want more. i'm really glad i did have another.

however, since there is a set of rules and guidelines in place regarding when a woman should have a tubal, if your doctor does the procedure before you've met those guidelines he's perfectly set up for a lawsuit. in this litigious age, you can't totally blame him for covering his ass.

 

Once you hit about 30... you WILL want kids...Posted by Insane Jester...Sorry, trying to quote went awry in firefox for some unknown reason.


Jester, I'll be thirty three next month, I've known since I was thirteen that I didn't want kids, & I still dont.

 

I personally couldn't imagine not wanting kids, but I think it's wrong that women are denied sterilization if that is what they truly feel they want. It's their body, their decision, they are the ones that will have to live with the choice they made, right? Seems silly to deny a woman her personal rights to her fertility.

 

It would be sooo much better to deal with an unwanted pregnancy...

 

My mom got her tubes tied when she was 20 because she had two kids already and was single. They didn't want to do it, but they did. Then she got cervical cancer, which was most certainly linked to having the operation at such a young age. Then she had a tubal pregnancy which was one of the most traumatic things she had ever experienced, she lost the baby of course.
I have an IUD, so far so good. Of cours in Canada IUDs only cost about 40 dollars. Good luck sis, birth control is a tough one.

 

huh? my OB wanted to give me an IUD and it woulda cost $375!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It was that Marina one......

 

I read some abortion statistics that stated that 30-somethings have more abortions than any other age group. They could be women with kids already perhaps but I know several 30-somethings who never had kids and opted for abortion anyways. Many of them are married.

Speak for yourself but many of us are either not up to the task or don't want to make the sacrifices.

Raising children is a HUGE commitment and life altering, your life belongs to your kids now. Why is it so hard for ppl to understand that there are many many ppl who want their own life and not give it up for kids. I'm nearing 40 and I still don't care to be a mommy, don't want the worries, commitments, etc.

Besides, it's not like the human race is faced with extinction, the world doesn't need me to propagate the species. In fact other species have a better chance of surviving if there are fewer humans demanding housing and adding pressure to convert ever more and more wildlife habitat over to housing developments.

 

A womyn should be trusted to make her own fertility decions. If a womyn wants her tubes tied, than it should be done. I know PLENTY of womyn, 30 and older, who have no children, and never wanted them. There is nothing magical about being 30.

these were called "Norplant." They are no longer on the market. There were problems with having them removed due to side effects and often they would rupture and also cause scarring.

It will be hard to find a doctor who will do a Tubal Ligation. So much if GYN is patriarchial. You should be able to make your own choices. It makes me angry that an often male doctor makes a decision to not allow a womyn to make decisions about her own reproduction.

I do have to say that I've never heard of a tubal ligation being a link to cervical cancer. Do you have information on that? I never heard that and I work in health care.

 

in all honesty, I'm really glad they refused to tie my tubes when I was 23, and married to an abusive alcoholic, and had no intention of ever having kids... it made me so angry at the time, the last thing I needed in my life were kids. My life changed for the better, and I changed my mind nine years later, after marrying a wonderful man who convinced me that it really is possible to have a happy childhood. No, not everyone does ever want to have kids, I thought I was one of them but I was wrong. Maybe I'd feel differently if I had gotten that tubal ligation way back then, and biological children were not an option for me. But there's no way to go back in time and change things. It's always a good idea to think long and hard about all possible future scenarios before making permanent changes to your physiology.

 

A good counter point, mamaboogie. In some people's lives, what they think they want at 23 is very different than what they want at 30. Thank you.

 

I think that 25 is old enough to know what you want. As long as a woman has truly given it enough thought and knows full well that it's a permanent thing...I say it's up to her. There should be no need to cover an ass for legal suits, if there is proper paperwork signed and the woman is sane.
Doctors make me sick. (no pun intended )

 

I was speaking for myself, I said "I personally" because I adore children, have three of my own, and couldn't imagine my life without them! But not everyone is cut out to be parents or simply don't have the desire to be one, and that's fine!

 

Mine was 40 or so....I dunno