Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of our deity, as we understand it. Step 3 is the first free willed decision the addicted undertakes after surrendering your free will to addiction. This step must be seen in this context. It is in fact this step that launches the addict towards recovery. Like all the remaining Steps, Step Three calls for affirmative action, for it is only by action that we can cut away the self-will which has always blocked the entry of a Higher Power - into our lives. It is the entry of the infinite oneness and higher source that seems to pull addicts back from the edge of the darkness of addiction. Actually it’s the realization that the infinite oneness has always been there, that we have never really been alone during the process which is the true, underlying message of Step 3.