Spanking

I personally think spanking is the creepiest most pathetic way to punish a child. It teaches them absolutely nothing aside from "If you misbehave I'll hit you." How did this ridiculous trend start. Did a parent one day just go "Hey! I'm mad at you. I know...come bend over on my lap while I slap your ass." Yea, creepy. I don't think I was ever spanked once while growing up. Anyone else's thoughts on this subject? Right, wrong, creepy, etc.?

 

I'm not a fan of hair-pulling either.

 

I'm not religious, but I do believe... spare the rod, spoil the child.

There is a difference between spanking and beating.... when 'time out' doesn't work, I do spank my kids... sometimes it they need that intimidation.

In real life you don't just get a 'talking to' when you are bad. In my household we try to expose them to what it's like in the real world.... just a taste so they have a better understanding of how things are.

 

I think that resulting to violence shows inadequate parenting.

99% of the time a young child misbehaves it's the parents' fault.

 

Physical punishment teaches them nothing good.

 

My brother and I were both spanked as kids. I responded well to punishment, period, because I've always been kind of proud, and getting in trouble is embarassing, so my parents grounded me much more than spanked. My brother, though, he was just a little terror and spanking was the only thing that worked on him. God, I'm surprised he's not in jail, had he turned out like he was back then. Uuuugggh. And I dunno, I think you probably have to be a kid who has gotten swats to see it as effective at all. My stance on the issue, as far as my own children go, is some things you just learn as you go when you become a parent. I don't know yet, and when I do, the way I punish my kids is none of anyone's concern but mine and theres. Because I assure you that I'll do what's right, but no one can decide what's right but me.

 

My kids are advanced.

 

Your kids will also be emotionally scarred because you beat them and probably ignore them more than you should since you have so damn many of them.

 

I'd disagree with that.

Children are always testing boundries, seeing what they can get away with, etc.

 

I didn't say I beat them... wich was stated, you just turned it into what you felt it said

You would know, sounds like you came from that enviroment with all of your negitivity and contant cries for attention....

 

That is only because the parents haven't placed such boundaries to begin with. A kid that respects their parents will no better than to test such boundaries without the threat of physical punishment.

At the same time, I do not really know if you can say that kids testing boundaries is necessarily misbehaving. At times the parents are at fault for not instructing the kid well enough.

 

Spanking is beating in my book.

Bad spelling is a sign of laziness and a lack of intelligence in my book.

I didn't have the best childhood, but I never misbehaved as a kid. I knew better. But I'm just smarter than average.

 

I hate spanking. I admit I've done it a few times, was told repeatedly by people "spare the rod, spoil the child". But it just never felt right to me.

That being said, I tend to lean more towards time outs or more importantly, privledges being taken away. I do kind of a three strikes and you're out deal. It seems to work well with my kids, they don't want to be forbidden to do something they truly enjoy.

 

I was spanked every now and then. I think its a normal thing here. I dunno....

 

When/if you have kids, you'll understand.

Not as easy as it seems.

 

All communication is subject to interpretation, so the parents' instruction will never be a crystal clear set of rules for the child to live by. And even if it is, the kid will see what they can get away with, which boundaries they can push, what offenses are unforgivable, etc. All part of the learning process.

I agree the threat of physical punishment should not be there, but children misbehaving is just part of their nature. I was always seeing what I could get away with, how I would be punished for different things, determining mitigating circumstances, etc etc.

Not saying there's no such thing as awful parents - unfortunately there seems to be an abundance of them - but children would misbehave (disobey rules) even if their parents were perfect in their roles.

 

i was spanked the other weekend...oh..wasn't talking about that kind

hmmm, i was also spanked as a child and i generally don't see anythign wrong with it. i generally see absolutely no reason to interfere with anyone's kids at all - not my place, not my call how they raise the child

 

You never misbehaved? Tough to believe.

I bent and broke the rules all the time. And I'm no idiot. Often times it was calculated and done specifically to provoke my poor mother.

 

You must just go by the writings of a different writer.

Yea, I'm lazy, and I don't care... you may feel more intelligent, but what has that done for you lately?

I highly doubt you NEVER misbehaved, you must have read that in you little book as well.

 

I have a very young niece and she does test her parents boundaires. But I believe it's because they let her get away with it. BSR is right however...I never really acted out or tested my parents as a child because I respected them and I knew if I did there would be consequences. Although I never had to find out what those consequences where because I did not push my parents much. I also believe BSR is right about testing boundaries. it's not necessarily misbehaving, it's just discovering new things and what you can and cannot do. Being a parent of a child is an extremely busy job. You do not always have the time to set rules and boundaries. But if you've taught your children right they will not push you on the ones you have set forward. My brother ALWAYS tested my parents when he was a kid and he grew up to be an EXTREMELY difficult child, teenager, and young adult. He is fine now but for 12 years he almost drove my parents to the grave. I believe this is because they let him because they knew he was a very sensative person so they never really punished him much. They essentially let him get away with it.