sorry it's so long... but please respond ... HELP!

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I have been with this guy for 2 and a half years and it has been long distance for 95% of the time. We met in high school and we were together for a half a summer and then he moved away. he was still the same state as me just the other side. About 5 hours away. Now, i did get to see him, just not all that much... in the beggining of the long distance cause we were both still in high school, but now we are both out of school (2nd year college for me) and we see each other a little more.. maybe.. every other month. Ok, also, he is a year younger than me, so there is a maturity and intellegence difference. All the girls out there must know what i am talking about by means of younger guys. I know it is just a year but it is bothering me more and more .... When we are together its perfect.. most of the time and we have GREAT SEX.. i never got off like i do with him but... sometimes i feel like he is so sheltered and really doesnt know much about life. When we are apart and talk on the phone (few times every day) we are ok, but sometimes fight or dont say anything on the phone. I reallly do care about him and have a great past with him.. but i just moved to a new place and are finding a lot of good looking OLDER guys who seem to be interested... i just don't know what to do. See my b/f i KNOW would never ever cheat on me and he will do anything for me... that i rare..so should i hold on to it??? Maybe it's just insecurity...i just dont know... i need advice/help...

sorry it's so long...

 

I think u should stay with him. He is a great guy and u sound like u love him very much. Do u think that u could love him and stay by his side no matter how bad the fights gets? if u can answer yes to this question and if u think he can answer yes then u should stay with him.

 

Well, you missed your first turkey dump. The opportunity is rolling around again. It's time to be honest with yourself. Now is the time to play the field, to meet other people, to think about what you want to be in the many years ahead. You're obvioulsy restless. Why fight it? Move on. You'll probably be doing him a favour too.

 

he sounds like a nice guy but i think if your having doubts about the relationship then maybe you should end it

 

i dunno, this is pretty tight, usually people have already made up their minds about these issues on whether or not they're going to stay and either don't know it or are just looking for confirmation...so i think you alread know what the answer is.

older guys are great and they may offer you some temprary relief of his immaturity, but all and all you may not be able to get anlong or feel as comfortbale with all of the as you would with your current bf. of course if you're alrady searching through your mind for reasons to break up with your current bf then the relationship is half over, and you may just want to end it before it drags out any longer.

it seems like you feel you may be missing out on a part of your life, and your compleltey right, you are missing out, but whether or not what your missing is better or worse than what you have you don't know...i'd say look for conformation first...is there a particular guy your interested in, or just an assortment of guys? if its an assortment, you may just be on boy overload and pissed cuz your mans not around...but if theres a particular guy you think can offer you somehting better than your bf theres no reason to stay in the old relationship. also if your feeling like your looking for ways to end the old relationship, i say just go ahead and do it...theres no point in dragging it on....

at anyrate sorry i can't tell you what to do...i geuss the key is to do more soul searching...just know what to look for.

 

Thank you...


everyone's opinions really helped...

I'll let you know what i do!

 

You're 19, and you're having a long distance relationship?

My 60 year old divorced grandmother does long distance relationships. She had a blast during her younger years at the prime of her age. And now, she's old and unattractive, and wants to try new things.

Where am I going with this? You're young and pretty now. Why are you wasting your time with a guy who you only see once a month? Right now, you probably care about him a lot. I don't doubt that. But did you ever stop and think what you're giving up? If you had a local, in-town boyfriend, you could be having so much fun together, instead of sitting on your bed twirrling the telephone cord as you talk to your current b/f.

Sometime's people you really care about leave, and you have to know when to let go. Don't beat around the bush any more. You've had your 2 years with this guy. Move on.

 

lol. *kiss* you're a sweetheart.