Something I'm thinking about tonight...

As a parent...sometimes you feel like you're up against the world when you only have to deal with a few kids. I felt like that at times. But I stayed the course and what really impresses me these days are these adult creatures who I helped to create and raised to have a mind of their own. They mostly agree with me but they are smart enough to not follow me blindly. If there is an error in my logic or my delivery...they will cut me down. Good...that's the kind of mind I always wanted them to have. One day I may have to trust these kids to make decisions for me when I'm older. I want them to be able to be logical. Don't raise dumb motherfuckers!

That's my thought of the night. I'm out.

 

I agree with you. I think its awesome when adult children don't just follow their parents blindly. I have no problem standing up to my dad and telling him I don't agree with something he says. There have even been a few times that he has listened to me and realized maybe I do know what I'm talking about. He has told me on more than one occasion that he's proud of the adult I have become because I didn't fall into the "Because I said so" trap that so many parents force their children to believe. Great parents teach their children to have thoughts of their own and to think about things until they can work them out in their own heads. You've done a great job Wiz!!! Thank god my dad didn't raise a dumb motherfucker. Well at least with me. I can't say that about my sister

 

LOL.

Yeah, it was a tough day to be a parent for me. Both kids had meltdowns today, but I'm all about listening to them, helping them communicate and think about the right things to do and the right way to handle each situation. There are many right ways, but there are only a few wrong ways to do most things, in my opinion. I definitely look forward to the phase where they can communicate perfectly what they feel, need and believe and fully articulate their thoughts, because I've seen that a lot of the issues that young children have stem from their inability to completely articulate or take action on things in their lives, from their own starting point.

 

On a related note....a short story.

Our daughters name is Cassidy. There is a Grateful Dead song called Cassidy and one of the lyrics is "Let your life proceed by it's own design." When our daughter was younger, my wife thought it would be cool to have those words on her bedroom wall. So she did this stencil thing on the wall over her bed and it looked really nice. The next day we noticed our daughter had used markers and added her own touch to the wall. My wife was not happy. I kind of saw the humor in it though. She was complaining about it a friend who said "Jesus Christ! You tell her to let her life proceed by it's own design and then get pissed the next time she thinks for herself!" It was pretty funny if you were there. We left those marks on her wall until we eventually painted the room.

 

Also, in her defense, if she saw mom "writing" on the wall she probably thought it was ok. I think its awesome you left it there.

 

That's pretty much what I was thinking too. My wife wasn't really mad though....just a little irritated.

 

I wrote that lyric on the first page of my son's baby book cassidy is a great girl's name.

I cant wait until my son is old enough to express independent thought. I love kid logic, there is nothing more honest and innocent.

 

Great minds must think alike!

My wife and I were on Phish tour one year...heading to Auburn Hills and Cassidy was playing in the car....the song, not the girl. I casually said "I've always thought that if I ever have a daughter I might want to name her Cassidy." We are reasonably sure that our daughter was conceived about 3 hours later in our hotel room.

 

are there actually adults who still base all their decisions on what their parents tell them to think/do? i guess i know there are, but it seems like a rare enough thing that celebrating the exceptions is a bit redundant.

 

I don't think its that rare. For many people their inner voice is the voice of their parents

 

Actually, I think it's more rare to find people who think for themselves. I wasn't talking about people who think differently than their parents. You can think differently than your parents and still not think for yourself most of the time.