Okay, so my boyfriend of 2 years and I just broke up. I am really really really upset. We have been fighting alot, and we have broken up before, but this is for good. I dont know what to do or how to handle it. Its like my love of 2 years, the one I slept with, turned too when I needed help, took my side, loved me, hes gone. How do you deal with this? I am going out with my friedns tonight, but they're all imature and say I should just say "fuck him" and get with someoen else. but love doesnt work like that, it doesnt just evaportate. OH MYY GGGODD!
Ok, i know the feeling. 1. First of all, are you sure that is over for good? I've been with my bf for a year and 2 months now, and we've broke up more than 15 times, and every time i think that is for good but is really not. Finally we both agreed that it will never be breaking up forr good between us. 2. Do you want him back? Why did you broke up in the first place? 3. Don't listen to your friends, and if their advices bother you, just tell them to stop. The last time me and my bf broke up, we were apart for 2 weeks (this is the longest time we've been apart, but we still comunicated). For 2 weeks i've listened my friends saying to me how i should find another guy, how he is no good, how i should just tell him to fuck off and erase him from my life. But i didn't listened to them, cause i know that they don't know exactly what is going on between us, thay don't know how i feel or how he feels, and most important of all, they have never been in love, thay just don't know. 4. If you know that you two can not be togather as couple, than try to be friends. He has been your best friend for thae past two years, if he can't be your lover, why not a friend? 5. Don't go out with people that go on your nerve, not right now. My advice: spend all your ime to yourself. Do something for you and nobody else, find something that makes you happy and just do it. peace
hi i'd ask him if you can just be friends too if you don't get on well as a cupple then ask him if you can just be friends instead tell him you really value his opinion and you want him in your life some people arn't meant to be lovers you know?
My relationship of 2+ years has just broken down too, we have decided to be friends... the best way to get over each other is time, you just have to sit and wait it out. xxx
we got back together, things are still a little shaky, weve been fighting alot, but we did decide to have no more impulsive, spontanious break ups becauase they usually result in us getting back togetrher : ) makes me feel a little silly for freaking out about it, but oh well.
Good for you. I'm also glad you didn't take your friends' advice, not it would have been possible to say "fuck him!" to two years of your life shared with a loved one. I wish you both well.
tbanks : ) yeah, my friends are great, but a little heartless when it comes to boys, theyd rather mess around than get in any sort of relationship...so i try not to lisetn to them
You said that you have been together for two years but fight a LOT ! Did you ever think that maybe you fight because you are witht he wrong person ? Did you ever think that YOU might be better off and happier without him and with someone new ? Life is too short for fussing and fighting ! Southernhermit and Catfish
oh trust me, ive thought about it. last summer we broke up, and we broke up for a month and a half. pretty much the whole time i was suffering, as was he, but we had been fighting alot and decided to end it. we got back together after that, but only under certain condiations. we dont fight consistantly all the time, some times hard just harder than others, but each time we learn a little more about each other.
Try to analyze exactly what you fight about and if there is a solution to the problem. Make a list of each fight and why it happened and how it was resolved. Perhaps a solution will come forth.
