This morning my gf suggested we have some fun together and go on dates, but Im very old fashion and Im really inlove with her, so Im affraid to loose her. I mean we live in miami, their is so much temptation that your doubts on loosing someone her if they mean so much to you has a huge chance. We've tried almost anithing and this is what she came up to keep our relationship going. But Im not comfortable with it and I for sure think I will loose her to another hoe. She said since niether of us dated any other girld but each other(we were both each others first lesbian gf), maybe we should try this and see how it is. To be sure we are meant to be. But she means so much to me and I need her so much I donno what to do. I mean Im like crazy inlove with her and do anything for her, she says the same thing and thats why she so confident about us. I've only been tought the old fashion way of being in a relationship and this does not come up at all. Should I do it with her? Should I relax and try it? Or should I just say no? I ask her if she wants to break and she says if I do want to then she doesn't. What do I do or say?
I guess the most important thing would be, to talk to your girlfriend about this issue! Talk to her about your thoughts and concerns. Follow your heart, if you don't want to date anyone else, don't do so. It wouldn't be an enjoyable thing then. If your gf loves you but still wants to date someone else? Either you accept it as such and are still able to love her, or you have to let her go. Both options can be very painful. Or she stays with you, for the sake of your love. But she on her side shouldn't do so, if she's not comfortable with you. It's a very tough situation. In my oppinion, dating somebody else and planning in advance to return to an old lover, will probably not work as planned. Everyone grows in relationships, learns things, and develops, and noone will ever be the same. So by wanting to date somebody else, chances are high that you two will never be together again with your old partner, no matter weather you are meant to be together (what does that mean anyway?) Maybe you girls can spice up your relationship in a different way? Look for new activities, new challenges.
