ok so i split up with my girl recently... things ended pretty well, we didnt argue or fight, just called it quits. basically the reason why we finished wasnt that we stopped loving each other but her ex made things really difficult, and she just found it so hard to be happy with me knowing her ex was that upset and sad, and so she decided to cool things off.. ok right, i know she loved me loads, but since we're been apart she has nothing to do with me. i ask her what shes been doing, and everything she replies its always about going out and getting hammered. thats not like her at all, we used to go out yeh.. but now she seems very keen to let me know that shes out all the time, getting drunk and claiming shes having a great time. The way i see it is that its just not her at all, and maybe shes doing this to cope with it all? i try and make convo and she replies, like one or two words.. doesnt wanna chat.. it upsets me, but im sure she's having a hard time. girls, and guys..how would u react in a similar situation? shes says how shes met knew ppl and having such a great time! (but i dont believe her for a second) if that was the case she wouldnt actually tell me would she, ud just say that u've been out with mates. she was drinking in the day today aswell, totally out of character for her aswell. opinions please.
could you please tell me if any of u guys did a similar thing to cope with spilting up? if u didnt want the relationship to end, and what you did to cope? basically i wanna know if shes doing all this to cope with the situation or if she really has just moved on. it seems to me is that if she has moved on, she wouldnt be telling me all this stuff would she? u'd just act normally, but shes goes on and on about hows she having such a good time, always out drinking... its like shes trying to convince me and herself, and try9ign to cover up hows shes really feeling. does that make sense to anyone? cheers
A guys perspective: It sounds like her ex is involved and is manipulating her. Arn't you angry that your relationship broke up because of some other guy? I would be. If you love her, I would find out whether she is lying about her new life or is just being controlled (mentally) by her ex. If her ex is really the reason she is acting weird, I would fight for her and try to win her back. Stand up for yourself man, and don't let her ex win. Just my opinion.
Before anything, there is one thing I'd like to know. How long were you and this girl together for, may I ask?
That's alright. Hmmmm... So you think she's now back with her ex, or at least spending most of her time with him? Because, you know, partying and having fun is one thing, and it's cool if she's doing that with people who really care about her and connect with her on a deep level. BUT, if it's like an everyday thing, and if she's ONLY with her ex when she gets drunk, then something unhealthy's going on there. Have you talked to anyone else about this? If not, I'd talk to a mutual friend or two about it, if I were you. That way, you're not the only one always asking her what's up. She might be feeling a little uncomfortable talking to you at this point, and might feel more at ease with someone else. That's just what *I* think, anyway.
Hmmm... OK then. Yeah, I say talk to a few friends about this situation, and see what they have to say. Who knows, they might know something you don't. *shrug*
women and men both act in strange ways when trying to get over a break up. I know I've been known to party a lot more after break ups and girls that I have dated have done the same. she's probably keeping the conversation short as to not rekindle old feelings for you and needs her space
hey DUDE....BEEN THERE DONE THAT....say wat the fuck....lots of fishes in the sea....move on if u dont then u will stop loving your self...the more u brood over this...the more u going to be upset.....
Dude, she's over you. She's out living up her new single status. She doesn't contact you nor does she want to talk to you. She's moved on and she's probably resenting the fact that you haven't accepted this. Give her some space and find yourself a new girl.
