social anxiety....

Anyone dealing with this also?

I've improved a lot in that I leave the house and go to college but can't manage to connect with people i'm not nervous around them just incredibly awkward can't seem to have proper conversations anymore.
I'm fairly sure I come across dimwitted and i'm not at all haha. I'm only close to my family I've made a few 'college' friends but I wouldn't see them outside of college. I can't convince myself to get help either didn't really think much of the psychologists I did see a few years ago.

Any advice?

 

I may not be the best person to give you advice on this but here goes anyway.

You say you attend college, don't colleges have various clubs or groups for different things students may have an interested in. Couldn't you find such a group that is about in something that your interested in or an activity you enjoy. It wouldn't even have to be thru the college, maybe just a group in the area you live in. You would already have something in common with people in the group and that could lead to some friendships outside of the group. Just a thought.

 

Ive dealt with it by accepting that I am the way I am and thats just the way I was meant to be.

 

I don't think I can accept living with a mental illness for the rest of my life I wasn't always like this.

 

Thanks I know I should do something like this just have to convince myself to do it.

 

You don't have to I hope you find something that works for you.

 

social anxiety is a mental illness?...

thats like saying being shy is a disease

 

Keep trying.

You've already recognized you feel this way and that is a good start.

 

I find keeping away from alcohol improves my anxiety in the long term, also eating healthy etc etc healthy body healthy mind they say

 

meditation might be helpful to you.

posting here might help, at least a little

maybe group therapy?

 

recognizing it the first step

accepting that its just the way you are is the second step

the third step is actively trying to change your preconceived notions and actions (if you decide to try and change who you are)...I say "preconceived notions" because its been <<my experience>> that most if not all of my social anxiety is just caused by stupid thoughts that my own mind has stockpiled and really has nothing to do with reality.

 

uggh i hate when people think being shy is the same as social anxiety lol

 

Thanks

 

I could definitely eat healthier I don't really drink though.

 

I didnt say it was


I hate when people think that their anxiety is an illness

 

so what is it then?

 

it's either something you were born with or something that developed

asking what it is ..is like asking why some people like to get up early and why some prefer to sleep in

its YOU.its a habit..it's a thought..its a personality trait

go ahead and try to change it ..but MY OPINION is that its not an illness

 

ok we'll just have to agree to disagree lol
Do you feel that way about depression, anorexia and ocd too?

 

I have the same problem, but it was worst when i was little. I feel like i'm too different and the subjects and interests of the people aren't the same as mine. i really tried to be connected with them, and i felt bad because i was being fake with myself. Then i learned to accept this, there's no right or wrong, just different people. Is that your case either or you doesnt know why you feel this way? Maybe you should try to find the right groups.