So when a guy says...

That your "My girl."

What does that mean?
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depends on the dude that says it. If I say it, it means you're my girl. Another dude could say it and it might translate to "I enjoy having sex with you, and would like to continue" or something like that.

 

My girlfriend.
But it depends on the context as well. It might simply mean something like, 'That's my girl,' meaning you two agree on something...

 

It might mean you two have a really close connection. Something comfortable to say. What guy is this? Context?

 

it probably means he feels you are his possession, and is planning to sell you off to the highest bidder.

 

Depends on the guy and of course, your relationship. I tell my good friend that she's my girl all the time. She is.

 

Um long story short, we had a relationship for over a year. But broke up. We still see each other and talk everyday. We don't refer to each other as Ex's.
He comes down every so often. And we do the things that we did when we were in a relationship, well yeah... Everything you do in a relatioship. Just on a down level, not so serious. We don't do things with other people, like dating or sexually.
I unno, it's a complex situation.

 

maybe you should ask your owner what he means.

 

Well, what do you want from the situation? Do you want it to go back to how you were? Sometimes, extended bouts of closeness are easier after a relationship because both of the people feel less under pressure to please the other and can be nore open and honest.

He could mean that he's happy how things are now. If you want more, you should probably be honest with him and see what happens. If you're happy now, take it as a nice affectionate term for somebody who obviously cares for you and be happy.

 

this is a great point. no expectations, no pressure, no worries. you said it yourself, you're doing "Everything you do in a relatioship," just not so serious, and it's apparently working. if you're enjoying the way things are, and he is too, why try to "fix" it? I bet when he says "you're my girl" he just wants reassurance that you're not going to sleep with someone else.

 

What you said about the whole pressure ordeal. He doesn't have a job or a car... He lives in LA county, And I love in Orange County. This distance was hard... Due to no car, but the parental units help with that. And he's 18 so I think he kinda felt bad about that. Like he couldn't take me places or buy me things. I never said anything, because I was so in love I didn't care about all that. But I think it was more that HE wanted to be able to do those things for me.

I don't mind the way things are now. I am actually, now comfortable with it all. I just don't want it to be like this for a long long long time... Because, well... It's like shit or get off the pot.

 

Sometimes guys do get hung up on not being able to do things for their girls that they feel they should be able to do. Especially young guys, with growing pains about trying to be a man. Whether you want those things or not doesn't matter, he seems to feel that he needs to be able to do these things, probably for his own sense of self worth.

Talking to him honestly is the best thing you could probably do. But if I was you, I wouldn't bring up the car/job situation, not even to try and set his mind at ease. Maybe that would make him think that you are actually thinking about it. If he brings it up, of course then you could tell him what you really need from him is not a taxi-service nor a meal ticket, just love.

 

to have multiple and not entirely overt agendas, is human, or i should say sentient, regaurdless of gender, or even species.

what anyone means by anything depends entirely on their own cultural perspectives, first and last, and then, on top of that, whatever other agendas might also be involved.

i can't believe i'm stating anything other then the very very obvious.

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It used to mean he was your dad, but nowadays it means he is your pimp.

 

I didn't know there were so many meanings to a simple general statement...

 

Wouldn't that qualify as one of those dreaded "define the relationship" convos? I thought those were frowned upon....

 

Doesn't mean anything to me.

A lot of people try and say things like that to get in my pants.

 

Have you ever gotten this one "I want to be infested with pube lice, please douse me with them for I want to be king, king of the pube lice.." Cause I get this one all the time...I almost fell for it once...

 

No, but I did get "You have a great body" before a "Hello" once.

I have no idea how a 16 year old can have a healthy friends with benefits relationship, because personally I don't think they ever work, but if it does work for you 90 paces west, then by all means don't fix what isn't broken for you.

I'd do what red says in this case, only if I were in your sitch I would have probably brought up the car/job discussion. Are there cheap commuter trains out West? Could you both not take a bus to see each other? Would it be all that unexpected if either one of you took up a job this summer?

 

that you're his homeboy, but in a girly way