Is there an established way of subtly communicating to people in public places that you are gay and want to know if they are too? EX: Coffee Shop
It works MOST of the time...every once in awhile, you'll get the douche that likes to play the game but when it comes down to business, he likes to run away and tell you he's not playing for that team. If all else fails, use the international hand sign for 'I'm gay'....
There is no sign...it's just a joke between my friends and me (an up and down motion with our hand to our mouth simulating a blow job). I DON'T recommend doing this in public to someone you don't know however....