So, I'm a bad mom....

Thats what bugs me about this day and age. There is so much momma warfare. It doesnt matter what you do or think, someone will always say its wrong.

Youre not a bad mom moon!

Its just there is nothing better to take the attention off what men arent doing in the household than turning women against themselves

 

I slept with my mother until I was 7...

And I turned out pretty OK.

 

I just wanted to give you some positive feedback from a mom who had five daughters and breastfed them all for over 2 years each. Weaning was a gradual affair, and a smooth transition. I also slept with each girl for 2 years, or whenever they seemed ready to move to a small bed next to ours. I used this bed whenever I could during this time, but welcomed them in our bed whenever necessary. I carried each daughter in assorted snugglies, slings, and backpacks, and I found myself carrying them around on my back freestyle alot of the time too. I don't think a baby can have too much attention, or too much time suckling at the breast, or too much time in your arms. I can only say that my daughters are 16-28 years old now and have grown into very healthy, balanced, and awesome people.

The only comment I have about breastfeeding in public places is I did it frequently and tried to find a private place, and if this wasn't possible, I was discreet. I have noticed women in public places popping their breasts out the top of their shirts to feed their infants, and I guess I think this is a bit excessive, and they could avoid dissention by being more modest when necessary.

 

I remember when my sister had her kids she coslept, breastfed, and did all that good stuff and I remember my mom talking about her saying, "I cant believe she is letting them sleep in bed with her, they're going to be sleeping in their bed until she goes to college!" and I would even say things to my sister giving her a hard time about it because I didnt know any different. The funny thing now is she is the first person I go to when I need advice about parenting, not my mom, or my 2 SILs that have kids.

I also think it's kind of crazy when my friends with kids (who "tried" to breastfeed) are like, "You're STILL breastfeeding?!?!" when Mya isn't even 2 months old yet. Everyone likes to ask me how much longer I'm going to be breastfeeding and they say it like it's weird to do it longer than 6 weeks or something. I just dont get it.

 

When I bf in public, I put a recieving blanket over Alexis and I, because I'm too cheap to buy nursing shirts.

 

Wear big t-shirts....when she's older, she'll fight that blanket and make it more obvious...I didn't own nursing shirts....cami tops and tshirts are the best...

 

If someone tells you that you should feed Alexis in a bathroom, casually tell them that gorging their faces in public offends you and they really should eat their lunch in the bathroom.

Or just ask, "Would you like to have your meals in the loo?"

 

Anyone who says or thinks breastfeeding is disgusting or unnatural needs to see a psychiatrist.

 

I have a four year old and when I gave birth to him I was absolutly amazed that I could help create something so beautiful, perfect and sweet. I held him (and still hold him) all the time. There is nothing wrong with that, mama. It helps form a connection. My son slept with me when he was a little baby and still sometimes sleeps with me if hes scared, or just wants to cuddle. Theres nothing wrong with loving your family. People who make comments like that do not appreciate life. Moms like you are the best. Enjoy it, I'm finding they grow quickly. <3

 

Edit, sorry i didnt read the rest of the post...Is sleepy

 

I recently invested in a nursing tank. Its just like a normal tank except that it has the clips that fold down like a nursing bra. I really like it as it keeps my "staypuff-tiger striped" belly hidden but still allows me to feed Mandred. Its a good layering piece.. and I need layers here this time of year!

funny how I actually have more of an issue with people seeing my belly than with them seeing my breast!

 

icedteapriestess:

theshapeofamother.com

 

Haha.

Retro....good idea!
A-bomb....Yea, they do grow up fast . Alexis will be a month old Sunday....I may have a heart-attack.
Holly-I have camis....I wear them with button up shirts....but my nursing bra is a molded cup and it gets bulky folding it down and I usually have to take that side of the cami off anyway. I was thinking about converting a few of my camis to nursing style....but it's getting cold fast here....

 

I guess that I don't have too much to add...but I just reread the post again, and I can't believe that someone could actually get sick of they're own baby. As Leane got older, I found that I couldn't get enough of her. It's still that way.

 

Holly: thanks for the link. I usually tend to look at my belly as being an fact of life... well, a fact of my son's life. Sometimes I do get down about it though.. especially when I try to wear pants that won't fit, or a shirt where my belly hangs out the bottom! Most days I am fine with my belly though. Am thinking of adding a pic to the site.

 

practice nursing in front of a mirror. It might feel like there's a breeze on your belly, but baby hides the skin from showing. I hated nursing tops, fumbling with the flaps only drew attention to the fact that I was about to nurse. I like stretchy tshirts, just pull them up.

 

I didn't realize that before!
Alexis is growing like a weed so she's pretty long now....and she covers most of my stomach so it shouldn't be too breezy.
Thank ya.

 

get an ipod. and then when they start bitching just go lalalalalalaalalalala or just tell them to fuck off. but I say get the free IPod with me, cause i'm going through the same crap. People suck. We're kickass moms.

 

I can easily agree that children shouldn't be kept in the bed with parent/s after a certain age - they get too attached, and you'll end up with a kid that can't sleep through the night without bursting into your bedroom at ridiculous hours because some tiny little thing was "scary". But at that young? I think it's great. Of course they're gonna sleep better all night when they feel warm and safe and cozy. It's harder to accidentally turn/throw the blanket off, so they won't wake up cold, and if they wake up and start crying ever-so-quietly, mom and/or dad is right there for them to snuggle up to before they start screaming their little head off 'cause they're all alone and cold. Yes, up to a certain age, having your kid in bed with you is a great thing.

And if they can't see how you find the time for breastfeeding, well... I'm not saying much here. I know that when I have children, I'll be absolutely thrilled if I'm able to breastfeed (without worrying about lack of production, etc). And getting tired of them after a month? And these people think they're good parents?! Or at least, good enough to tell you how things should be? If they're telling you that you'll get tired of your kid after about a month, they are not good parents.

And again, of course babies love being held. We love being around our good friends, right? Mommy and daddy are baby's first friends. Keep 'em close, it'll help avoid so many problems during the "teenage stages" if they see you as a friend/someone they can talk to... and that starts YOUNG between parents/children. Babies like being held because when they can't crawl or walk or anything, they can't just play by themselves and do what they want. Should I tell my friends that their babies like me more just because they stay entertained longer by my piercings/jewelry when I hold them? Pfff. Just as ridiculous as what these people are saying.