So i know for a fact my parents smoke and (a long ass post)

So i know for a fact my parents smoke. But ths situation is a little weird. Ill explain.

I remember being little and like...finding papers and shit around the house. And ive smelled "weird smells" (at the time when i was little and didnt know what it way)

well over the past 2 or 3 years ive found stems and pipe screens and whatnot. I know what it is because i smoke. I smoke because of my depression and terrible insomnia, and i know that sounds stupid and im sure theres plenty of 18 year olds who say that ALL the time, but it really help me in a non scary antidepressant sleeping pill way. ahha.
Well they have found my weed 3 times before and ive gotten yelled at and they took it said they flushed it and ive had $75 pipes smashed and many packs of papers "confiscated".
One day i was blazed as shit home alone (yea, i do toke up every now and then and have an all day stoner movie and junk food fest) and my dog went in my rents room. Long story short I saw this shit filled with shitty ass weed. So i told my best friend who ive known since birth. Well she told her brother even though i begged her not to say shit and it came back to my mom. I got yelled at, called a liar, grounded, called names and basicly degraded for weeks. They made me tell everyone that i mistook it for sage. Which she showed me this tubberware of sage like im that fuckin dumb. She knows i smoke so she's trying to save her ass. Its nto a big deal. Her Best friend found out (which i know for a fact she already knew because ive caught her smoking weed right in front of her when i was tryingt o sneak in my myhouse once)
So ive found shit before. ive found buts of bud. stems. screens. pipe cleaner. Ive seen her pipe many a times.
Ive never kept any or said anything everytime ive gotten in trouble.
Its causing me to have anger built up against them and they dont know why and i cant tell them.
I found some in my dads car today. and i did keep it.
I dont know how to start a conversation off.
I just dont think its fair that i havent had a say like why i smoke or even a chance to talk about it with my parents, and im just sitting here knowing they smoke.


Help. anyone?
its greatly appreciated.




Im sorry if some didnt make sense. I have slept 3 hours in 3 days. I havent smoked in a month and my insomnia is kickin my ass really bad. I will glady clarify anything.

 

if they smoke, why don't they want you to smoke? since they smoke it they would know its not a big deal right?

 

well in life sometimes you've got to live up to certain obligations... just like pierrot le fou said, "My name is Ferdinard. I have told you often enough. Christ almighty! You bore me to death!"

 

I think they think i dont know they smoke. I dont know. And i dont get it.
I just dont know what to say to my mom but i know i want to talk to her about it.

 

you should bring up the point that you are 18, legally an adult, and that you are capable of making mature, informed decisions.

tell her that it is your "life choice" to smoke, and that it really helps you sleep and deal with your depression.

try to stay away from the argument of "well you smoke, so why can't I?"

I've noticed that that really doesn't work with parents, at least not with mine, because it usually makes them defensive and they usually end up saying something along the lines of "Do as I say, not as I do."

 

The thing i got yelled at about was "BRINGING WEED INTO MY HOUSE"
I think im just gonna go with the flow.
Recent events in my life have affect their view of me.
I fucked up pretty bad. So we've been fighting all day everyday and i dont want her to think its to somehow to take me out of trouble.

 

if you really are 18, then don't worry about it. you're all adults and everyone needs their privacy. they obviously don't want ANYONE knowing they smoke. so try to live with it until they're ready to talk to you about it. and try not to be so obvious about smoking when you're around them.

 

steal all their weed, papers, pipes, EVERYTHING to do with drug use and just wait. they'll approach you. and you'll be like "oh so you DO smoke?" always works

 

^^^
Great plan

 

Just talk to them about it. State that you are an adult, and you know that they smoke weed, so you can all have a weed party now.

 

Greatest idea ever! I Second this motion.

 

Judging by the way you've deescribed your parents i can't really say, although i think the best thing to do is t talk to them. Starting the conversation is the hardest part although sometimes it's best to be blunt (no pun intended). You might find your parents are more resceptive than you'd think. Start out by saying "mom/dad, i know that you guys smoke pot. on numerous ocassions ive found weed/papers/bowls lying around and haven't said anything. You know that i've smoked for a while and everytime you've caught me you've been very harsh about the situation. I don't mean to be disrespectful, but i think its a bit unfair."

being that their not my parents so i can't really judge, you need to decide for yourself the best way to approach the situation, although maybe that might help.

you may or may not also want to tell them what you said about it helping with depression

 

your 18 make your own choices and dont let them catch you or your stuff(buy a small safe and put your stuff in it.). They are your parents and i guess in their mind they are trying to look out for you but they are also being hypocrites. i smoked with my mom for about 3 months and now she dosnt smoke anymore calls me a drug addict.. so ik where your comin from. as long as you live in their house you either have to abide by their rules(break them behind their back) or move out and get an appartment.

 

First off you have you understand why they are being so secretive, they are trying to uphold the image they have in the community. To some people, it's hard to appear like a good upstanding person if you smoke pot, it just won't happen.

Once that happens, then they lose the respect of their peers.

I would sit down with just you and them, tell them that you would like to have a discussion with them. Tell them that you made a stupid mistake by telling your friend, and you thought you could trust that person with the information. Explain that you understand how important people's opinions of them are.

Once you admit to them that you were wrong, simply ask them why are they not okay with you smoking. Assuming that you have a job and go to said job, you are an adult and feel that you have the ability to make informed decisions for your livelihood.

Now, if you don't have a job, then get one. It's hard to appear responsible if you have nothing to show just how responsible you are, "i take care of the dog" won't cut it.

The most important thing is to not yell at them.

 

That makes sense, they are adults and dont want to be affiliated with stuff they're not supposed to and at the same time want to keep you from messing up your life like they did (i'm not saying i think that weed is bad, just might be their perspective). I'm bad at confronting my parents about that kind of stuff too, so, even tho its easier said than done, i would just put it all out on the line and be like "dad i found your weed, now explain yourself" or something (maybe not that aggressive, but you get the point)

 

So i discussed with my mom and she played the stupid act. like she didnt know what it was and kept telling me i was wrong. she said she talked to my dad and he said it wasnt what i thought.
right. I dont know what marijuana looks like. 0_o
I held that im not stupid.
I however started the convo by asking what her views on marijuana were. and she was like "We dont let you do it cuz its illegal!!!" and she played that whole, my opinion is the same as the laws bullshit.
I dont think she told my dad cuz he hasnt been acting diffrent or anything.
She took my "evidence" so i dont even have that.
I did tell her i understood why she would lie to me and tell me that because she is being what shes taught to be a responsible parent.