i had been seeing this guy since february. hes absolutely adorable, really sweet and usually really great. we were never serious about each other but i definately was in love with him.. i just didn't want to tell him because he never told me how he felt about me. lately hes been going downhill. he lost his job, his apartment, etc... started drinking all the time. he had always been a pothead but now he smokes an ounce a day. i'm pretty sure hes depressed. but hes turned into a total asshole who only cares about himself now. last night we made plans to get together because i recently moved to a new city and was visiting and wanted to see him. he ditched me twice last time i was in town but last night he didn't even answer his phone because he was too busy getting drunk and i had to walk to my moms in a tank top and skirt when it was only 5 degrees and my moms place was about an hour and a half walk from where i was. should i just give up on him? i left him a pretty nasty message telling him all he ever does is waste my time and that hes selfish and that i wouldn't be calling him anymore. but i really do care about him and love him and worry about him. but i'll never be able to get through to him. hes going to continue to treat me like shit as long as he feels this way and my caring about him won't make him feel any better. :\
Yes. Actualy it sounds like he has dumped you. The ditching you on your last visit and not answering his phone sounds like a clue. My guess is that he won't break up with you until his new lay objects to him seeing you.
Move on. It's over. I don't particularly think there's a new lay, partly because I did find myself involved with a loser like the one you described - pothead, drinking, jobless, inconsiderate. You're bound to feel a need to sympathize or empathize with him. It could be worse. Instead of giving you the cold shoulder, he could be dragging you down with him and clinging on to you. I know you're hurt, but you know it could have been far more disastrous. He doesn't want you. And from the sounds of it, he needs to clean up his act before he starts toying with someone else's emotions again. Flat out, NO cigar.
How we treat others is how we feel about ourselves. So he must really feel pretty shitty to treat anyone like you this way. Move on and you will see later he wasn't worth it anyway. Peace
I'd say very much over. And as much as you care about him, try to let go or he'll only drag you down. Help him any way you can, by all means, but make it sure it really is helping him and not just making you feel better.
forget about him. you are beautiful and will be able to find someone who will respect you. do not let men treat you this way, give (some of) them an inch and they'll take a mile. ggod luck
Seems he does not deserve you so let it be his loss, go on be happy and let somebody treat you as you should be treated.
Hmm sounds like it's definitely over to me, too. Move on, you deserve better. At least he's not trying to drag you down too. Here's wishing you luck.
