So how long ahould u wait b 4 marriage?

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by Danielle, May 27, 2004.

  1. Danielle

    Danielle Member

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    So here is the perfect question whats your idea wait before marriage? 1? 2? 10 years? How long should you be together before you theink of marriage and how long after engagemnt should u wait?
     
  2. DarkLunacy

    DarkLunacy Senior Member

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    Never never never!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm never getting married! NEVER! -runs off crying-
     
  3. dhs

    dhs Senior Member

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    Maybe you should consult Dennis Rodman or Carmen Electra on this one?
     
  4. user__friendly

    user__friendly Member

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    It all depends on what feels right to the two people, but for me personally, I plan on getting married once I am financially and emotionally very stable! I probably will when I get out of college, but for now, having a boyfriend I've been with for a long time, or even sometime in the future a long engagment would be just as nice. :)
     
  5. AutumnAuburn

    AutumnAuburn Senior Member

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    I prefer to shack-up, before getting legally entangled in marriage...

    Been married, and divorced, twice...

    Yeah, living together is much better.... :D

    Who needs a piece of paper to say you love each other and are committed?

    But, I'd marry again, if my guy really wanted to... But, if I do... It's gonna be in Vegas, by an Elvis impersonator... :D
     
  6. Mui

    Mui Senior Member

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    you must get married when you are 26, at the time of y our birthday.

    or else
     
  7. missfontella

    missfontella Mama of Da Assassins

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    Oh shyt! I'm in trouble
     
  8. cbrmale

    cbrmale Member

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    When you meet 'the one' you won't want to wait at all. I got engaged 6 weeks after I met my wife and we were married 3 months after that. Thats 18 years ago. My brother was also engaged after about a month, moved in with his now wife and was married 6 months after that.

    You need to be sure. Everyone has been in passionate love with someone, but it doesn't last. Lots of people have also been good friends and think that the next obvious move is marriage, but those relationships lack passion to last too. The ideal person, and they are out there, is the person you are absolutely obsessed with, passionately enthralled by. And yet, outside of sex, you get on so well together.

    When you meet that person, you don't need to ask how long to wait. Because it is self-obvious. There is no need to wait at all.
     
  9. torz

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    how long to wait before marrage? i dont think that there is a set time skale, its like sex in a way. you want to wait till the time is right before having sex because its such a big life changing step in life. my sister had her first child at 18 & her second at 21, she had been with her bf, 6 years before she got married & the marrage failed after 3 years. i say it dosent matter how long you wait untill you get married, what matters is how you work at the marrage. communication, trust, empathy, love, compasion, addoration plus many more i cant think of, all contribute to a long lasting happy marrage. if you have these in a happy relationship then the marrage will last till death do you part.
     
  10. Tykn130

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    I wanna get married and move to the forest with my wife and live in a cabin. Maybe when im like 25 ill get marry. But marriage is sooo hard because alot of people get marry and have devorces so fast. Or ill probably wait for the right time to ask her. But im not like all other guys ill take care of my Bitch like a queen. HaHa I just wanna leave and make a new life somewhere eles.
     
  11. dee

    dee Member

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    There's no time scale to follow unfortunetely. In my opinion if you are a girl then you should find a man who is willing to die for you, but that's in a perfect world. I've had about 10 girlfriends and 3 relationships, out of those girls I would have died for one of them, no two ways about it. But I was stupid and young and I fucked up, was gutted for months. Learnt that lesson the hard way.

    If only life were as simple as computers. The buttons are labelled too.
     
  12. balance_n_venus

    balance_n_venus Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

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    There is no right anwser for that ,Sorry.I was w/ a guy for 4 1/2 years engaged & everything but it just was not right .Left him ...met my husband...9 months later we were married . Best thing I ever did . We have been married for 5 years now,Lovin It. Some people may have thought we were crazy but it worked for us . Good Luck.I hope you find your right anwser.
     
  13. MamaTheLama

    MamaTheLama Too much coffee

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    When your pregnant and the welfare office wants to sue your deadbeat partner for child support, so you marry him because you don't want to make the worthless pothead pay $150 a month when he can get a welfare check to pay for his nugs while you change the baby with old dish towels instead.

    Never mind me...I've got a somewhat low opinion of the male side of the species :D
     
  14. shadowd_dreamr

    shadowd_dreamr Senior Member

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    I cant see my self getting married...
    So waiting.. uhh.. isnt an issue..
    I think it is all just a peice of paper with four signatures on it.. (bride, groom, and two witness's).. plus, pretty well every marriage ends in divorce.. soo.. why torture your self..
    ---Wanna know why Divorce is so expensive? because its worth it ;).
     
  15. Nalencer

    Nalencer Dig Yourself

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    I'm sorry to hear that. I'm glad I'm not a sexist.
     
  16. PurpleGel

    PurpleGel Senior Member

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    marriage is a marketed gimmick that has been on the shelf particularly since the years after WW2. i certainly like the idea of commitment, but not in the way that supports a rampant industry.
     
  17. searching4nirvana

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    alot of people say you need a long time to get to know your mate and should live together first, blah blah, maybe so with some folks but my parents only dated a few months, just "knew" and got married immediately........ and no she wasn't pregnant, lol. They have been happily married for 26 years. everyone is different though depending on maturity, past relationships, etc.
     
  18. FrozenMoonbeam

    FrozenMoonbeam nerd

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    Yeah I think it's so true that each couple is different. My parents dated for 12 years, were engaged for maybe 2 weeks, and have now been happily married for 23 years.

    so just do what feels right.
     

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