we're living in a tiny cramped apartment. the kids have their own room, but they share it. they co-sleep over at their dad's, who also has a small space. every week we'll take a couple of days and split them, so that each kid can get undivided attention from each parent. but they still fight, especially in the morning. son's 9, daughter will be 5 in june. damie has a lot of anger issues and has a lot of trouble showing respect, especially towards women. (my ex used to tell him that i wasn't as good or important and that he didn't have to pay attention to me, which is one of the reasons why i left.) i'd really like everybody to get some counselling, but the kids are insured under the ex's policy, and he's resisting. anyway, the issue this morning is the fighting, and the small space. i figured everybody was tired, their dad makes them get up early to come over here sunday mornings, so i sent them both back to bed for more sleep & to start the day over. i separated them, the little one got to nap in the "hideout" they made in their room and damien's on the futon, in the hopes that this would help to ease the fighting. but my son is in there sobbing and calling me a monster because after giving several warnings, i yelled.
siblings fight its just how it is i don't really have any good advice me and my brother are now 18 and 13 and still fight the same way we did when we were little
Hello! Sometimes siblings fight. And sometimes siblings will stop fighting and quickly go clean their room when a parent tells them to. But the odds of that ever happing increase when another parent is telling them they don’t have to. Please note: I believe that anger is just weed and “sometimes” easily gotten rid of if you find it’s roots. Plus once those roots are gotten rid of there will be room for something new to grow. So please consider anything I say below is a sincere hope of help and that sometimes you have to first speculate before finding an answer to a problem. Maybe your husband is still telling your kids that you are not important. Maybe your son is fighting with his sister because she is female. Maybe a picnic in the park with a couple of other moms and their kids will show your boy that mom’s and woman are an important part of his life. Anyway baby steps and cheers!
