slowly fallin for a foreign exchange girl but shes leaving in three weeks.what to do?

I've met this really cool girl and we became really good friends quickly. slowly we started to hang out more..talk more...subtly flirt...always having a good time, laughing all the time. it was obvious we were in to each other and our friends knew it. but I also think we are both a lil stubborn and did not want to crack or admit anything...or maybe stubborn is the wrong word..shy maybe?

but one night, I finally did. we had been drinking earlier but the effects had all but worn off by the time I said what I did. call it the placebo effect who knows. I knew it was time to crack I said "I have something to tell you...ahh, nevermind"..and she pretty much knew right away...and followed with a "no go ahead". I knew she knew. and I admited my feelings. and she responded as expected. and its been very deep the past 4 days, its been SURREAL at times. a lot of gazing into each others eyes, holding hands, flirting..kissing..wordless communication. and we just understand each other very well. she even said shes never felt this before. I feel the same. to what extent for her I do not know, she is a little mysterious in matters of the heart..well I should rephrase that, an open book for the most part..but I think she is deeper than she lets on..or maybe even deeper than she thinks..but that is a guess.

the passion is there. the thing is, she is here for a semester and is leaving for France in less than 3 weeks. I can slowly feel my heart falling apart when I am alone and anaylze the situation..It will hurt badly unless I prepare myself...even than...ughh...but when we are wrapped around each other, the moment is all that matters. we kiss, we are sensual and its feels great, like no where I would rather be. the only thing I notice is it seems she gets so into kissing she seems to start moving around as if she is having sex, subtly....first, is my kissing that good?...she seems to have a look of bliss..and second..is this just natural unconcious...sexualizing of kissing? (does that make sense)..I respond back and things seem to get pretty heavy..especially earlier tonight, but just kissing and heavy sensual experiences. so uh...many questions...what to do what to do??...please comment away. I met this girl in feburary but didn't start haning out until sometime in march...maybe even late march, so its all happening so quickly...but at the same time, naturally..



we have many pictures together too, wow.

 

i guess thats great that you found a girl you like a lot... but unfourtunately you have to let go, there is really no other option... i found that. check out this forum, i have just recently encountered a similar situation...

http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=163592

 

no matter what it is going to hurt, love her as much as you can, get as close together as you can get, tell her everything and do everything you guys want at least look back and say you did the most with your time, say you'll keep in touch and you will for a bit, but sadly one day you won't get a reply on your e-mail or her number will change and you'll have to count last words as your final goodbyes. Though you may get out of the loop for a few weeks and maybe breack down in tears know that you loved and for 3 weeks she was your own and now you must give her back to the world

sry, but you're as lucky as the situation is flawed find out everything, and maybe in the end you can use all the energy of those situation (this passioned time and the eventual end) DON'T think about the end untill the end and maybe you'll be able to create some thing like an painting some poems or some story to express the rage of emotions

Luck and skill

 

Eh something about these foreign girls. A foreign girl gave me a looks I never received before, too bad nothing came from it, as she is only visiting most likely. I don't know is it just me, or girls that come from overseas are really nice and not conceded.

 

Just spend the time together like its the last time left on earth, that the clocks all stop when she leaves, never regret, never look back and live founder for having grown from the relationship. Some never get a chance so let nothing stand in your way for the time you have.

A good friend once told me, no matter what it is you want to do, just do it and care not about the consequences, people are forgiving, life is not! He was told he had 1 year to live, he made it 2 weeks! SO every second of your life never let a thought, a moment, a chance, anything slip by. Dont listen to others that say let go, hell hang on with every ounce of your soul, if its meant to be it shall be so! But dont for a moment let the thought of her leaving stop your moments.

 

well I posted some pictures here if anyone wants to see. maybe a dozen or so. half of them are towards the botton, the rest at the top.

http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/009018.html

I am just to damn lazy to post them all again here. but tell me what you think

and thanks so much for the feedback people!

 

Wow Dude your 21????? I am sorry but maybe the pictures do play tricks on me, but you look a hell of alot younger.

 

I don't understand the big deal...yah, I am 21. maybe I look a year or two younger in some peoples eyes..but in others I look a year or so older. so it evens out in the end.

maybe its easier to tell by the way I act and carry myself. who knows. but who cares.

 

yah so what?..than what? its more than that, don't downplay things

 

and it was indeed a beautiful moment..or many moments...but distance can't come between us....

 

...thanks...sigh

 

nail her and move on after she leaves.

 

^yeah, that's pretty normal.

You'll have a fantastic last few weeks together but when she leaves it'll break your heart. Just go into it knowing this but it may be well worth the experience.

She'll go back to France and you guys will write back and forth probably for a few months but it will die out.

Don't put too much hope into this relationship because most likely nothing will come of it, it will be just a spring fling and you'll come away with some cherished memories and nothing else.

 

Distance can & will come between you. It's destroyed many relationships much stronger then yours. I'm sorry if I sounded harsh....

 

You can try to stay in contact.
You can also try to make her come back if she can... Or... Go to visit her...
But now - just live your life and be happy! That is how she will be happy

 

you folks simply don't know much of the situation and are in no position to make such bold predictions (you and insanejester included). It astounds me what some of you have said going on info I have provided, which is 0.0001% of possible information between the two of us.

so what if it's common for others to lose touch after a few months, that is other people, that has no barring on my situation. how about mentioning the other side of things instead of viewing everything so one sided? I have dealt with long distance BS myself so I am not being naive either. at the least we will remain very close friends regardless of where we end up living. and if we lose touch, we will at least have memories < but I don't see that happening. she is great about keeping in touch, I have seen it, and gets very sad when friends don't reply to her. I know she will hold up her end...and I know I will too.

I have had meaningless sex, one night stands ...whatever. I wish more people would give me props for wanting something deeper regardless of where I find them. I have always felt that I would meet somebody outside of the US. It just suites me.

 

if you ask for advice and don't hear what you want to don't complain.

 

quote: There's never any more to anything than that very moment...
lastly be realistic...
she lives in another country

tsk tsk my simple minded and vain aquantiance, there is plenty that can be done.....
but it'll eventually lead to marriage like it did for me

 

ohh I just want people to be objective and not tell me things in a matter of fact way as if they understand things. they can give me advice but not as if things are going to be impossible..I mean come on, some of this advice has been completely one sided.

 

I'm sorry but didn't you ask for advice??? Don't be too upset when you post your problem on a public forum for everyone to read and people actually respond to it. You're gonna get a whole lot of different opinions from different people with different experiences. That's what it's all about.