I'm a guy and as far as I've been having sex, I have a difficult time cumming in a timely manner. Granted I get there eventually but normally no less than a half hour. I know a half hour is great but that's really only on a really good day. On average it takes me around an hour to finish, and normally I have to like focus on something sexy I guess. I don't know... has anyone else had this problem? I'm not saying I want to finish too fast but if I can manage a half hour on average that would be great. After more than a half hour I eventually get bored...
*MAMA* only when I'm with someone else. When solo I have no problems the Nexus.. I do watch porn but not too much.
Actually half an hour stamina, sounds like a pretty good thing most ladies wouldn't have a problem with provided you know how to read their body and provide them with as much pleasure as possible.
Then to me, it sounds like an issue with the people you're having sex with. Is there a connection there? Are you attracted to them? The fact that you're getting bored after a half an hour is a bad sign. Think of things that excite you, then talk about them with your partner, and act them out. Sex should never be boring.
There usually isn't much connection to be honest. A lot of the time these are one night stands or just "fuck buddies" if you will. When I am familiar with the person nothing changes much. Most of my sexual experiences have me in my head focusing on them so much that I think I forget myself. I am more focused on how to please them and not how they are pleasing me. It's weird...
Clearskies, take your time. I think it is fair to say most ladies are in no hurry for the guy to cum.
Have your partners complained? I am kinda of the same way, but I don't get complaints at all. So if it's not broke don't fix it or stress about it. Just accept it as part of how you are a sexual being and see if you can use that to your advantage.
If you want to cum quicker, I suggest that you not do a solo the same day that you will be having sex with the GF.
Do you masturbate with a firm grip? Have you ever tried anal sex? Or what about a handjob? I ask those questions because I'm a "slow cummer" as well and my "problem" is that vaginas just aren't tight enough. Give me a nice, tight butt for a minute and I'm done, but a vagina... I don't like it hard and heavy as in a cheap porn movie, but that's the only way if I want to cum inside her. And even then there's no guarantee that it'll work. Sometimes I'm exhausted before cumming. There's nothing wrong with being a slow cummer. Just adapt your sex life to it. I've never met a woman who had a big problem with this. Quite the contrary! Most women liked it (after getting used to it, which can take a while), because they knew for sure that I won't cum too early (even in a quickie) and that they can have me as long as they want. Just explain them that it is you and that it isn't their fault. That's important, because some women start to think they're "doing it wrong" and are feeling uncomfortable when you're still not done after an hour or more. And nothing is worse than one partner feeling uncomfortale in bed. If your problem is the same as mine, try what I did: ask your gf to give you a handjob whenever she's done. It's my favorite way to squirt off and it always feels like a moment of true intimacy. There's nothing better than a satisfied and happy girl laying her head next to your penis, starting to rub him between her face and her hand. Or when she's under you and pulls him out, just to give you that special smile while she's stroking him, watching the expression on your face while you cum on her belly. A moment of beauty!
My guess? You're probably so used to cumming from masterbating that your body has gotten used to that specific kind of stimulation in order to get you off, and now other kinds of stimulation don't 'get the job done'. Try a hiatus from masterbating. Allow yourself you be stimulated in other ways, or get to the point that youre so horny that ANY kind of stimulation will get you off. Don't put pressure on yourself - it makes it a millions times harder to finish.
Sometimes I find if she is really wet it can take a long time, guess I just don't get the friction I need, like above when it's time I pull out and jerk off to finish. It's hot kneeling over her pulling my cock while she tells me to shoot my load on her.
I thought being wet would make a guy cum faster? (and no complaints here to the OP. Lucky girl who has you) half an hour to an hour in doggy style would be...explosive for me.
