Alright here is the story: I have been in a relationship for over three years with my first and only love. This is the man that I want to spend my life with. Last year he had to move 500 miles away, and we had been making the long distance relationship work. Until I started college. Before I had been able to talk on the phone alot more, and suddenly I had hardly any free time. He began to have suspicions that I was being unfaithful (which I wasn't) and we fought hot and heavy for about three months. We never fought before, so this last portion of the relationship has been a nightmare. Eventually we decided to call it quits, remain friends, and see how things went. What had been lacking for so long in the relationship for me was tenderness; and shortly after we ended our relationship I found it stupidly, and briefly with another man. Your basic one-nighter. Soon after that he said he couldn't live without me and we got back together, which is what I too wanted. But now there was a problem. I waited five days after we got back together to tell him so that I could do it face to face. Because I didn't tell him right away he feels that I have broken his trust, and of course the usual hurt and anger. But it has been a few weeks now since he found out, and we are still together, slowly (but not very effectively) trying to work our problems out. I really want this to work. I love him so much. I already admitted what a bad decision it was, and the biggest mistake of my life. Now I need ways to build his trust back up, and simply get through a really rough time in our relationship. Please if anyone has been through this let me know of pitfalls to avoid, and things that helped you and your partner. And even if you haven't experienced this situation I would like your view point. Thanks
i haven't experienced this...but i think it just takes time and comitment. you seem to have both, i feel you love him dearly...tell him that your sorry, of course you'll make it up to him with your love. it may of been a mistake, but what's done is done, nothing can change that. you can't dwell on it, he needs to forgive you, and you both need to move on...it'll take time, but it will happen i hope it gets easier soon
Thank you for your help. I just feel so helpless to change the bad things. I am doing all that I can, and yet nothing is getting any better. I guess it will take as long as it takes, and until then I just have to stick through it.
Moving is not an option for either one of us at this point. I have scholarships to go to shcool here, and he is stuck in the army there. I wish it weren't so.
If neither of you is going to move soon,then I think the relationship is going to end soon.How can you get back together without being physically together?I would date other people, meanwhile, and stay in touch somewhat until such time that it becomes possible for one of you to move closer.At that time,you could try and reconnect if both of you are still willing. ~peace
