what does it mean when everyone(parents too) oogles over your older siblings except you, is it just because you're young and un-eventful or is it because you're ugly and sad...? i need to know
maybe they feel they need the oogling n ogling more than you do n just dont understand that you would like some as well,,, but then again if they had parents like mine,,, they just plain didnt wantya n made it known,,,, something to be said for that as well,,,, atleast it didnt come as a shock to me as an early adult n go off the deep end..
well my parents like my older sister better because they think shes a better person than i am and they think that since she got straight A's through high school and is now in an ivy league college while i get a B average and am probably not going to college.
It's called playing favourites and it's not fair. My cousins go through that. Their older sister had her belly button pierced and the parents (mother and step-father) didn't bat an eye. Katie bleached two sections of her hair and they told her it was "unChristian-like" (what the heck? I'm Mormon and one of my friends at Church has dreads! What now!) and made her go have it dyed back to her original colour (after spending like $30 to have it done). Or, they buy Lauren (the older sister) a Louis Vuitton purse and Juicy couture (?) outfits, but if Katie and Nikki (twins) need a new coat for winter, they make them pay for it with their own money. Oh, and they don't call them Katie and Nikki. It's, "Tell the twins ___", "Go get the twins", "Are the twins back from school yet?", etc. Anyway, I don't think any parent should do that, whether or not the older sibling has straight As and is in band and student government or not. Parents should love all their children equally and SHOW it.
in my family, i am that older sibling. not to a huge degree, but i know it's definitely made it tough for my sister who is a year and a half younger. this is probably why she and i don't have a good relationship...lot of feelings of inferiority on her part, lot of feeling threatened by her on mine.
I'm the older on in my family too. I don't think my parents treat me differently but I can see how my sister always has me to live up to. Luckily, I don't think she sees it this way and lives her life as herself, not playing catch-up with me
To be honest, as an older sibling, I would rather have had LESS attention from the parents. I was expected to blaze a trail, to get straight A-grades, to become a powerful career woman, all that ... which I spectacularly failed to deliver. I actually felt glad when my bro got to university because I knew that it would take the attention (and their disappointment) away from me. Being the centre of attention is not always a positive experience, although I don't think I've done too badly by it, however it always made me feel as though I had to deliver good results ... wayyyyy too much pressure!
I'm the middle kid...no one gives a rat's ass what I do... I get the eye roll when I get a new tattoo or when I started dreading my hair... My younger sister and older brother get everything handed to them on a silver platter, while I have to work my ass off to get anything I want. Yup...story of my life. IT happens.
I can tell you this it is not only the older siblings this happens to. My best friend is the oldest and there are 2 younger sisters. Her mother definitely treats her like crap and lets the other daughers have anything they want. It really ticks me off because I see it first handedly and as a mother myself I cannot fathom the idea at EVER treating your child this way for example my best friend joined the military after high school only BECAUSE her mother said they would not help her with college and they didn't want her their. But when it was time for the sister well they paid for college for both of them. Isn't that nice. Right now she is living at home with her 4 year old just until she can relocate at her husbands job (finished her 4 year in military) her Mom still yells at her treats her like a child and told her that she has one month to get out yet her sister is about to move back in. Unfortunately it happens and it is not right to me it is like her mom uses her to vent on but instead of being an adult and talking to her about the things wrong in her life she just likes to scream at what she thinks her daugher is doing wrong (which apparently is everything). The thing that really put me over the edge with her mom recently my best friend found out she may have skin cancer guess what mom says I told you that was going to happen her dad says don't look at me for sympathy. Gee Thanks for the support. Sorry for ranting but it is not right and causes alot of frustration not only between parents but also among siblings. Take in what you have learned if you are the one being treated this way and how it feels and promise yourself you will never treat your children this way.
