I have a boyfriend of over 3 years. We live together, own pets together, split the bills... the whole sha-bang minus marriage and children. I always thought I loved him because we had so much in common. He's basically me with a cock and balls. But lately I have been feeling this urge to be single.. like just go out with whoever without answering to anyone. I guess I miss the independence. I haven't really been single since I was like 17 (I had another long-term relationsjip right before I jumped into this one). I want to feel what its like to be single and play the field again. I miss the game. Other times, I feel that I could be with this man forever because I have this strong love for him, but it ebbs and flows like a tide... OMG, I am so confused and have been trying to sort this out on my own for months now.. I know this is not enough info. to evaluate an entire relationship, but unbiased opinions and experiences would be nice. The mroe, the better.....What do you do when one day you feel you love someone entirely, and the next day you wish you were single, and the feeling keeps flip flopping back and forth? Thanks everyone.
Maybe just give it some time and dont make any decisions until your emotions stabilize a bit. Why do you want to play the game? It fucking sucks. Of course, so do relationships most of the time. I will say, if you are having doubts... you better make sure you investigate that more before you are 45 and married. BTW, ebb and flow huh? I like your choice of terminology..
That's a tough call, but just remember you don't want to fuck up what you have - if you lose it, how will you feel if you can't get it back? Pretty shitty, I'd wager. If you *have* to be single again, then there's not much reason for us to discuss this, but if I were you I'd really sit and think about it because it sounds like he's perfect. All relationships go through a period where one partner is either uncertain, bored, or something, but stick with it and you'll come out on top. I'm still looking for my "Me with a vagina," and it hasn't happened yet. Don't jump ship unless you really are ready for the consequences of possibly losing him.
