This is kind of a long story, It all started in May/June this year. My friend James and I were talking about taking our friendship to the next level... but I was really busy with exams and studying and eventually said no because I wouldn't want to be the girlfriend who neglected her boyfriend. He said he'd wait for me, and I said don't, who knows what might come along... and he'd said that there was nothing better than me. As these past few months have gone on, I've been busy, and things have started to quiet down and I have realized just how much I care for him, and tonight I took a leap and asked him if he was still interested, and I said that I really cared about him, and I was just so nervous... and then dropped the bomb. He's seeing a girl from our law class. I felt like such an idiot, I mean I should have known better. He's such a great guy, someone else would've seen it and taken the chance. I just waited too long. Its my own fault, and I think thats what's hurting the most right now. I can't even cuddle Marley because I got home tonight and she ate one of my books. So she's crated for the night. Ugh this sucks so much. I just want to go and eat myself into a stupor. I'm exercising all restraint that I have. I am just so effin sad.
if you two are supposed to be together, the time just isn't right. never use the crate for disciplining your dog. It should be her safe place, not her torture.
Yea sounds like you waited too long. Sometimes when you tell someone to move on they do exactly that. I know that sucks for you though. Also a crate should never be used for discipline, it defeats the point.
My mother crated her, I told her not to. But what mother says goes (at least until she had gone to bed)
poolshark, examine what compelled you to reject this opportunity... I don't think it was the fact that you're busy... There is more... Women are socialized to exercise restraint, reject, wait passively, be taken rather than take... Examine... WE need another woman in this world who examines her assigned societal role... None of us are imune to socialization pressures... As a male I have to admit I'm happy for the guy. Usually the story is guys wait and nothing comes into fruition. Take this with you and discover something about your psyche... Analyze... Sorry if I sound a little preachy. I really don't mean it in such a way. But what you're going through is so common among women, who look at opportunities dead in the face and say "no", and blow them, without remorse, even with contentment... There must be something to it.
