should I tear this up?

Okay, My 23 year old step daughter moved in with her boyfriend which means she just took a few clothes and left her room at our home a mess. Well the wife and I have decided to clean her room up and told her we would be doing this. We are washing her clothes so she can go through them and take what she want and the rest would be given to goodwill. Anyway I was cleaning in there this morning and found a dildo and some other vibrators. I also found some pics that she and he boyfriend took of her nude showing everything and a couple of her giving her boyfriend oral. I was blown away as she is so cute and sweet that I guess I just never thought of her as being a sexual being. So, SHould I tear up the photos so as not to embarrass her and put her vibrators in a drawer? The whole thing makes me feel weird. I told her mom about it and she said that we should probably put all of that stuff in a bag and that she would tell her daughter that she found it. what do you think?

 

if it was me I'd put them in a bag, hand it to the mom and get her to hand them over. It's one of those things that you might not want let her know that you found them. It would be embarrassing for her to be around you if she is shy.

If the mom goes over then it's a mom and daughter thing and "dad" doesn't know about it. The mom might want to go over the "naked pics" can end up anywhere and everywhere.

I had the father in law go into the house once with my ex and the toys were all sitting on the head board. After that they were locked up when not used. I know he saw them but no one has ever talked about it.

We are all human and we all grow up at a certain time so she is growing up. My daughter went on a date last sat and she is 15 (looks like 19) so it's hard to take in but still happens.

 

Yup, hand it to mom and make like you don't know. If you want to have talks with her about safety because you are now aware of her activity then do so but don't relate this bit with it.

 

This girl either sounds like a total idiot or someone who simply has no care in the world. How on earth would you forget you had sexual devices and compromising pictures.

All I can say is wow... Maybe have your wife post picture of it on her facebook account and see if that gets her attention, yeesh...

 

do what the mom says

always ...

life is easier that way

 

kill it with fire..

 

I'd flat out hand to them face to face, scowl my eyes and shake my head at her as you hand them over. In pure disgust.

 

:troll:

 

Yeah lol, he's totally shocked but still hanging on to those pics, has them laid out in front of him as he types this post with his left hand

 

Ha.

Yea, that.



I'm not sure I get this thread... it either is or was her room. She's 23. She has a boyfriend. She probably wasn't thinking to NOT have those things in her room.
I don't get the shocked part. Did you view her as a 14 year old or something? Hm. Yea, shrugs.

 

Its like that cos you all never really express it to them, from his point of view he only ever saw sweet girl routine for her stepdaddy, always acting disgusted at a guy if she got turned on in front of stepdaddy so he thinks she thinks sex is disgusting, and of course he never sees the Rocky Balboa face she pulls when riding the pink rabbit, and of course never hears all the crazy shit going on in her head when she's doing that

Then guys like this will go on about the values they impart to their kids, importance of being a role model, importance of having open communication with their kid, yada yada yada, when they have no clue about girls, and the whole time she and everyone else he's just a perv cos he spent to much time dwelling on this photo thing.

Everyone says honesty and communication are the most important things, but no parties involved are ever honest or ever communicate properly especially when its something even remotely sex related

 

lol. Sounds like you know the type that you think the op is.

I don't know... I just can't imagine being shocked that a 24 year old has sex toys or something. I'd be more surprised if someone didn't.

But yea, the spending time dwelling on this or worrying what to do?... that's what I don't get really. So what... you found them, they're hers. Put them w her stuff or give them to her mom. Not sure what you expect when you go through someone's room. (and to have this as a first post on this forum is a bit curious).

 

the girl probably starting blowing guys like 10 years ago

 

i think we need to see the pics in order to give a proper answer

 

yes include the pics found

 

I dont think OP is coming back.

Once he blew his load he got bored with this one and is now onto another site and another made up story.

 

Th8is thread tastes trollicious..

 

Pretty much exactly what I was thinking.

 

:rofl:

 

This was the tamest troll thread I've seen in a while.